Unless you were a big fan of the big bands so prevalent in the 40’s or saw every film that Bette Midler ever made, you probably missed the movie “For the Boys.”  A recent news story about the opening of a USO in Virginia is what had be revisiting my film library recently to view this picture once again.

I had purchased a video of a Mark Rydell film a while back. This movie is about a true-to-life couple who entertained the troops, a warm a sentimental look at Eddie Sparks and Dixie Leonard two of the many USO singers and dancers who were hired to visit military installations to boost the morale of the soldiers and to offer them a temporary respite from the stresses associated with the war and from battle fatigue.   Many movie stars volunteered to join the entertainers to cheer up the troops, and just amazed the soldiers with their electrifying stage presence.

The film was not made yesterday (its issue date was 1991), in fact, while Ms. Midler and James Caan were rehearsing a scene on location at a London airbase, and performing for servicemen and reservists, they were surprised by the sudden events of the Gulf War that called many of the soldiers immediately into action.

A good deal of their audience that day had to leave and Caan and Midler found themselves reliving a familiar occurrence,   entertaining the remaining military service personnel  with their film’s musical numbers before the men present on the set were actually called off to do their duty.

While oversees, the bands, the big bands, were doing what they could for the war effort to keep Americans entertained and happy.  Out of this effort, beautiful torch singers emerged and the sounds of big band jazz.  One of the all-girl big bands of the swing era was called the “International Sweethearts of Rhythm” with leader and vocalist Anna Mae Winburn.  Songs that would inspire and lift spirits like “Tuxedo Junction” were the order of fare for these one-of-a-kind, tremendously talented female musicians, their songs, like their popular number “Jump Children” were impossible to listen to without wagging a foot or two, or moving to-and -fro in beat with their lively music.

The International Sweethearts of Rhythm were the first band to challenge biases of gender and race. They confronted these dual prejudices during a time when the African-American mainstream lived under the oppression of the Jim Crow laws (ridged black codes between 1876 and 1965).


The torch singers of the 40’s were a cross between vivacious and sultry and all were gorgeously attired for their musical gigs, they were considered “Big Band Beauties”.  The less petite looking women were labeled “swing singers”, they were more robust in appearance, and less concerned with glamour but more focused on jazzy pizzazz and beautifully belting out their songs.  These beauties where equally as enthralling but in a different way, they were referred to as bluesy sisters who swung, and man, did they ever swing.

Women’s groups (close harmony singing groups) like the Andrew Sisters (La Verne, Patty, Maxine and Sophia) were a combination, a mixture of both striking and spellbinding.  In addition to their on stage performances, the Andrews Sisters made many radio broadcasts and movies with big bands such as the Glen Miller Orchestra in the 30’s and 40’s era.

They would tour, play in clubs and entertain in hotel venues aesthetically enhanced with highly fashionable clothing and makeup.  Much like today, people needed to be captivated and distracted, the sound of their music and their glamorous appeal helped to take their audience’s mind off worrying. The torch and swing singers, the women’s close harmony groups and all female bands like the International Sweethearts of Rhythm, used their aesthetic appeal both audibly and visually to calm, sedate, and to stimulate, thereby, reviving the senses of all those who would show up or tune in to be aesthetically healed, one way or another.

References & Much More on this Subject 

Film clip from “For the Boys”


Tragically Sad Scene from Movie “For the Boys” – Bette Midler sings “In My Life”


The Girls in the Band – All Woman bands of the 30’s and 40’s


International Sweethearts of Rhythm – Tuxedo Junction


Women and Jazz International Sweethearts of Rhythm


Andrew Sisters, Boogie-Woogie Bugle Boy of Company-B


Andrew Sisters – Hold Tight (rare recording)


Sexy All Girl Jazz Band


Ivy Benson and Her All Girl Orchestra


Vintage Make-up Guides (1940’s)


1940’s Vintage Fashion Poolside Fashion Show


Haircuts of the 1940’s


Wikipedia Big Band Era


Music of the 1940’s at the National World War II Museum Stage Door Canteen


Women’s Fashion 1940’s


Many people believe that beauty resides in the center of a good soul. Traditionally, beauty has been said to be in the eyes of the beholder (the receiver who looks for beauty,  is likely to encounter it ). Beauty carries with its own vibration, meaning there is a frequency that is attached to it.

Beauty is its own life force and as such it contains its own energy and those who recognize it  are the receivers of its energy and when they release it through their appreciation of it,  they become transmitters of beauty.  Like all elements of light and energy, beauty has reflective qualities. It omits an aura through its own vibration that is subconsciously experienced by those who are in agreement with it.

When we encounter people, places and things that we perceive as beautiful, we often feel lighter and more jovial.  Depending upon what it is that we interpret as beauty, the impression it leaves on us can vary from extremes in excitement, to a soothing sense of internal serenity.

We may not all see the same redeeming value attached to the things we identify as beautiful but we certainly know when we have witnessed it, and when its residual effects are experienced by us and we are touched by it, we are in some way, never the same.

There is also a group of neuroscientists  that have exploring the signs of spirituality in relation to the human brain which they claim is not the mind and is connected to a higher level of consciousness that links our thinking to the universe and beyond the world of matter. In their book the “Spiritual Brain”

Mario Beauregard and Denyse  O’Leary focus on the strength of our convictions based on our spiritual experiences that inspire ourselves and others who believe as we do. http://www.amazon.com/The-Spiritual-Brain-Neuroscientists-Existence/dp/0060858834

They are researching alternative mental visions such as extrasensory perception and telepathy. They are of the belief that inquires into psi  have special merit and are worthy of just as much  investigation.  In their book they describe the importance of looking for a “God spot” or a “God Gene” in the brain that functions something like a switch that can be turned on in the brain. And, they claim that the studies they are conducting are turning up considerable evidence of such.

They refer to their hypothesis as the nonphysical mind. They see it as another dimension in their  professional neuroscientific lives. Drawing on his own research with Carmelite nuns, Beauregard shows

that paradigm spiritual happenings can be recorded. He offers much more than speculation that holy events in our lives have a spiritual basis which provides for some serious introspection and that could possibly give credence to the idea that there is a mightier power who we can give credence to that inspires our spiritual experiences, and our faith may not merely be the physiology of our brains.

Another book that reveals the inner workings of the spiritual mind is the book “Studies in Neuroscience, Consciousness and Spirituality”.  The series editors: Harald Walach, European University Viadrina, Frankfurt (Oder), Germany, Stefan Schmidt, University Medical Center, Freiburg and European University and Viadrina, Frankfurt (Oder), Germany, have diligently united both scholarship and science.

In the United States, Canada, and in Israel there are those who have contributed to the research and the publication, experts academicians like Jonathan Schooler, University of California, Santa Barbara, CA, USA Mario Beauregard, University of Montreal, Canada Robert Forman, Jerusalem Institute of Advanced Studies, Israel B. Alan Wallace, Santa Barbara Institute for Consciousness Studies, CA, USA

Individual chapters discuss new areas of research, such as near death studies and neuroscience research into spiritual experiences, and report on significant new theoretical advances.  From Harald Walach’s introductory essay that invites inquiry into the subject, “Neuroscience, Consciousness, Spirituality – Questions, Problems and Potential Solutions,” to the concluding chapter by Robert K. C. Foreman entitled An Emerging New Model for Consciousness: The Consciousness Field Model,” “ who encourages us to investigate  this book and promises us a more integrated understanding of spirituality, neuroscience and consciousness.

Practicing the Art of Preponderance

The problem with being perplexed is that one has to be patient when pondering

 Out of the paleness of one’s potentiality, the vibrancy of precision can be produced if one is purposeful

Precious as the rarest of all pearls is the wisdom of one’s positive projections of self

Precocious by nature but with a personality that has grown protective after years of providing food for prejudice, pilfering away at one’s pride

Promising paradigm shifts but stuck in patterns of preponderance

more persistent than not

Parlaying a prominent protagonist philosophy only providing more puzzlement to the pot

Preposterous proclamations lend nothing to the precarious situation

Feelings of persecution result in pessimism for which there is no preparing

Pleasure can only be permitted if the power of prayer presides

Principles prevail over problems offering professional progressiveness if there is no procrastination

Planning and preparedness pave the way for future profit and unlimited possibilities

For each of us has the potential to be prophets of the people and protest one should not

Prudence provides the platform for preservation of purpose

“We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.” 
Friedrich Nietzsche

 There is nothing more enchanting than watching people dance; their spirit always seems to rise to the occasion. 


When the music starts one simply cannot sit still, every part of one’s being is affected.  

There are so many different moves to observe; at times it seems impossible to take them all in.


Dancing is an art form, one that satisfies a person’s desire to experience the freedom of openness.

It is difficult to view a ballet without feeling the dancer’s movements on a very personal level.

Tap dancing is enthralling and invigorating, whereas the Tango is just downright sexy.

And, what could be more sensuous than belly dancing?

Everyone knows that a good waltz can make one feel as if he or she has wings on his or her heels.

On with the dance! let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.
~George Gordon, Lord Byron, Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage 

Sensational Scenes from More Than Memorable Moments of Dance

Scene From Film “Scent of A Woman”  

Scene From Scent of A Woman


Liza Minnelli’s performance in the movie “Cabaret”


35 Best Dance Sequences in Film


Sizzling Dance Scenes


Riverdance – Irish Dancing


American Indian Dancing


East Indian Dancing


Traditional Japanese Dancing


Trailers and Clips from Entries to Contest – Best Dance Scenes in Film


Youthful Dance Number


American Bandstand – Celebration of the 4 decades from 1950’s to 1990’s


 Quotes about Dancing


More Quotes Re: Dancing


We are All Rain Proof & Water Resistant

Even in the puddles of the dreariest days, we play!



Alone Again

Maudlin in the Rain

Biking Through the City’s  Streets 

Splashing in Puddles Rushing Off to Work

Taking the Time for the Joys of a Summer Rain Shower

Paris in the Rain – “I Will Never Be the Same!”

 Souls and Rain-Drops

Sidney Lanier 

Light rain-drops fall and wrinkle the sea,
Then vanish, and die utterly.
One would not know that rain-drops fell
if the round sea-wrinkles did not tell.

So souls come down and wrinkle life
and vanish in the flesh-sea strife.
One might not know that souls had place
weren’t not for the wrinkles in life’s face. 

“Some people walk in the rain, others just get wet.”
Roger Miller

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…it’s learning to dance in the rain.” – Unknown

Rain  – James Rowe


Rain fell last night…quiet, gentle rain,

that tapped against my window pane,

and called me back from troubled sleep,

to soothe a heart too numb to weep. 

My loneliness was too deep and real,

and like a wound that would not heal,

it throbbed within me, and I knew

my arms were empty without you. 

But as I listened to the sound

of soft rain falling on the ground,

I heard your voice, tender and clear,

Call my name, and oh my dear,

I threw my window open wide,

to let the sweet rain rush inside.

It kissed my lips, my eyes, my hair,

and love, I knew that you were there. 

Tears that my heart could not release

Fell down from Heaven, bringing peace.


 Rain Videos

I Like London in the Rain – Blossom Dearie


Beauty of Rainy Days Bangkok


Famous Poems About the Rain


Love Poems


Quotes About the Rain


Video – Walkin in the Rain with the One I Love


25 Songs About the Rain


Enya – Listen to the Rain


Cracker – Another Song About the Rain


Country Western Songs About the Rain


Singing in the Rain


We are born with many sensory based gifts associated with heighten awareness, but none can rival our ability to think up visual depictions of the things that we desire most and hold a sincere appreciation for in our lives. 

No matter what our financial status, whether we are rich or poor, being able to see the unseen by simply putting our imaginations to work results in a treasure trove of assets which makes us wealthy beyond any monetary measure.

When we imagine, we dream, and when we dream, we create a unique world of our own making where anything and everything is a possibility if we will just bring it to life by forming the idea of such imaginings as being real in our consciousness.

It does not matter if we have experienced the smell, the taste or the feel of a live sensation or not, all we have to do is be resourceful enough to ingeniously conjure up the image in as much of its splendor as we can possibly master at the moment.  

How astounding it is to know that as our thoughts have the ability to wind their way through the halls and imaginary corridors of our complex and highly creative minds, that there is always the possibility that we will, by some remote chance, come across a full fledge panorama of a fantasy we arbitrarily envisioned as we mentally turn a make-believe corner and find ourselves jubilant by what we come upon. 

 Regardless, of the probability of our wish coming true, daydreaming will always shine a ray of hope on impossible pleasantries that we choose to picture in our minds.

 As children we were put to task for allowing ourselves to become inattentive and distracted, but as adults we are considered invaluable members of collaborative teams if asked to contribute our sharp minds and insights to inventive projects  and uniquely devised presentations. 

The gift of imagery is an endowment that keeps on giving because it continues to come to our rescue again and again, by rising up from inside of us like a geyser that propels a stream of gushing water high into the air, gaily triggered by some spontaneous interval in what would otherwise be regarded as another humdrum day. 

Imagery provides us with a temporary intermission, relieving us of a nerve-racking instant caused by an intruding predicament that interferes with what would be a more harmonic aspect of our daily existence.  

“I was trying to daydream, but my mind kept wandering.  ~Steven Wright”

Quotes about Daydreaming




Allows for…









Self-imposed Isolation


Stillness and Silence 

Additional Resources on the Sweetness of Solitude

Wisdom Quotes Video – You Tube  


Funny loneliness


Article on Overcoming Loneliness


142 Songs on the Subject of Loneliness & Isolation – Songfacts



There are many ways to view criticism. The task that artists must take on when they finish a piece of work is to be able to deal with the disappointing responses that come from their critics and to not let them dampen their spirits, to continue to create, especially, when they are doing the very best that they can.  

 Criticism can be viewed many ways – Here are just a few to consider:

Denigration – scorn and disrespect

Lack of praise or appreciation – disdain over numerous attempts

Poor evaluation – another’s assessment of one’s artistic results

Critique of one’s work – appraisal of one’s efforts

Unsolicited comments – unwelcome remarks

Analytical analysis – methodical reasoning

Progress report – ongoing opinions

Disparagement – belittling of work or harsh ridicule

 Censure – reproach for efforts made

Deduction – inference

Criticism is merely that, a way that people interpret an artist’s efforts to meet his or her imaginative goals.  Overly critical observers cast dispersion on what the artist does based on their opinions of the his or her work.  Some people are better at evaluating an artist’s vision than others, but in any case, whatever comments are made they are subjective and remain subjective until the artist chooses to invite them to be anything more than someone else’s truth.

 I have never met an artist that would prefer to be deprecated rather than fully appreciated.  I personally see little value in attacking someone else’s art because doing so might interfere with their intuitive attempts at creativity, and that is not what I want to do with an artist who has the daring to put something out into the world with his or her signature on it.  

Artists are creators of art, they are individuals who produce and initiate things that are unique and different unto them. I, for one, do not expect them to be performers as such, although a few of them are at times, equally as adept at being one-of-a-kind, personalities.

Many artists tend to dress, speak or act out their art; their outrageous behavior is what makes them even more intriguing, which I believe is what encourages them to be so outlandish and eccentric.

5 Ways How to Survive a Slight

Self-control  – Aim for A Responsive Reaction, use it to Build a Creative Foundation

Build a Support Platform that Connects you with  People who Naturally Admire your Creative Nature

Be Your Own Work of Art – See Everything Else As Just an Extension of Who You Are

Let Your Projects be Your Reward – Make the Process More Important than the Outcome

Open Up to Other People’s Opinions and Recognize Them for Just What They Are – Just That!

Others Views on the Subject –

Handling Criticism Phobia –


Overcoming Phobias including reacting to unfair criticism


Coping with Infuriating, Mean and Critical People


Breaking the Cycle – how to respond to overly critical people


 Why are some people overly critical

http://www.amazon.com/Coping-Infuriating-Mean-Critical-People/dp/0275989844 –





I started thinking about writing this blog with one question in mind, what is dating about in 2011? I did a little research and came up with the following insights, I hope you will agree or share your comments with me on the subject:

Good Dating Judgment Comes From Experience and from Getting the Inside Scoop –

  • There are no “steadfast rules” anymore
  • Women are still battling stereotypes
  • Too many men are confused about their masculinity
  • Financials are a serious consideration in potential mating opportunities
  • Women are still looking for security over love but many still do not realize it
  • Men whether they admit it or not are looking to marry-up to improve their status
  • Women with children are not out of the dating game as much as they think they are
  • Some men actually prefer to work their way into a family unit rather than start one up from scratch
  •  Men like women to carry their own weight but don’t know how to express their preference
  • Men need to feel as if they are needed
  • Women are less in touch with their femininity and more about trying to meet marketing dictates about how they should look and act
  • Men know the difference and shy away from women who have to try too hard to be “pretty”

If you want to be a successful dating who to Stay Clear of the Following:

  • A person who falls in love too fast
  • A name dropper – someone who tries to overly impress you
  • Men or women who mistreat pets or who have no use for them
  • People who hates children or cannot be bothered by their presence even for a short time
  • Those who lives in a completely sterile environments devoid of any plants, flowers or any other signs of natural life
  • People who cannot mention having a good time without connecting enjoyment to substances such as: alcohol, recreational drugs or enormous amounts of rich food
  • Candidates who never want to introduce you to family or close friends
  • People who act awkward when you suggest that they meet your family and friends and make all kinds of excuses to avoid potential encounters
  • Shifts the conversation when you mention long-term plans of any sort
  • Speaks only of issues and concerns that involve him or her personally
  • Expects too much from you and resists turn taking
  • Wants to share intimate details about life way too soon in your relationship
  • Keeps talking about Ex’s and how he or she was victimized by them

 Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.  ~Auguste Rodin

CNN’s Matchmaker’s Tips on Dating


Thoughts on Serial Dating


Some Profound Very Personal Female Insights on the Why’s and Wherefores of Dating


Pointers on How To Enchant Women


Cashing in on Corporate Dating Nuances – A Glimpse into a Premier Dating Service


Sexual Politics in Higher Education and Beyond – Dating Bans in the Corporate World


   Tips on Avoiding Dating Discomfort


Intelligent Interactions – what to say and not to say on a date



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