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Wordsworth suggests that the reader grasp onto the beauty of the moment for strength and peace. It is the serene atmosphere of Nature that gives the soul strength and allows one to reflect on life and gain inner harmony. By not acknowledging this gift at the time, we can only deeply regret our blindness, but still being thankful that we at least have the memory of this breathtaking experience.

Always Stop to Smell the Roses
Rachel Daly

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Hello There,

Making sure we are on the right track is an important part of fine tuning our careers.  Opportunity is always all around us. Navigating timing and terrain however, is important when we are thinking about relocating.  Both are major considerations before heading out to get that next position.  Finding just that right fit into another work culture is the key as to whether or not we will be satisfied with our ultimate decision to uproot ourselves professionally.

We all move on for different purposes.  If we are caught in a situation that makes us miserable then we must make that choice to go or suffer the daily consequences of staying on.  A move from one professional place to another is stressful. It takes careful planning and, in most instances, some retraining.  I believe it also takes a willingness to take risk – after all, there are no guarantees we will be any happier.  But for those of us who pride ourselves on our ability to be adventuress then, there is a huge potential that we may be very pleased with our decision. 

We have to ask ourselves if we are content and where we want to be.  If not, we owe it to ourselves to slowly and methodically, plot our way out.  There are many reasons why we are not at ease in our current workplace.  It may be because we do not like the specifics of the job itself, or, it could be because we do not like the people we have to work with every day.  If we have a long and grueling commute, the distant location may be at fault.  Another variable is the size of our workplace. Perhaps, we find it too closed in and claustrophobic or, it might be too enormous and impersonal for us.  Regardless, in the end, it is not where we want to be. 

Let’s face it; departing any job these days is scary.  We take our chances when we venture out among all the unknowns.  There is no doubt that the economic world we live in is different these days even from just a few years ago.  There are fewer certainties and that reality can be chilling.  Who knows where we will land despite our training and education. 

If, for whatever the reason, we suddenly find ourselves jobless, any lost employment opportunity makes us feel like a total failure.  This is especially true when we are required to interview for a job we feel was forced upon us and we are not even considered a suitable candidate for the position.  Sometimes the more attractive offers seem to dry up and we feel as if we are losing ground. It is during these times that we have to face the stark reality that there is no going back and just keep looking forward. 

We must reevaluate our skills and reapply them to a variety of unique work models that we design for ourselves.  It is a career plan that acknowledges our strengths and takes into account our vast experience. If we are new to the field then this is a period that requires our participation in educational programs that will help guarantee our advancement.  Consequently, we are at a crossroads, this is when we need to take a turn, and as we do, we have the chance to advance ourselves and move forward professionally.  No matter what, it is a major step in taking charge of our careers.

Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner

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There are many reasons why a professional’s reputation can become tainted and ruined.  Individuals who are prominent, who are not affilitaed with any professional group and who are  in the limelight are more likely to be condemed and to be targets. The Japenese have a saying: “the nail that sticks out is the one that gets hammered down.”  below I have listed just a few of the reasons why:

  • Susceptibility to bullying
  • Political missteps
  • Poor handling of crisis situations
  • Slow reaction time to negative attacks from naysayers
  • Reluctance to apologize for perceived offenses
  • Improper implementation of PR strategies
  •  Suspicion and doubt planted by competition
  • Unethical behaviors / professional misconduct
  • Jealous peers undermining efforts toward career advancement
  • Complacency
  • Hiring unsupportive and envious staff
  • Wrong coaching or consultants
  • Loss of trust
  • Noncompliance to professional entities
  • Security breaches from staff and business partners
  • Aggressiveness
  • Personality clashes
  • Negative opinions
  • Conjecture and rumors
  • Negative publicity
  • False statements from reputable sources
  • Accusations from ex-employees or clients
  • Actions of disgruntled spouses
  • Underestimating long-term damage of critics

Image Reputation Restorers:

  • Practical advice from those who have experienced unfair competition themselves
  • Outside support from creditable sources
  • Testimonials from clients / patients
  • Crisis management from reputable public relations firms or legal experts
  • Studies into strategic communications
  • Proof of expert status
  • Dedication to clientele
  • Community assistance
  • Application of theoretical concepts for specific situations
  • Honesty & Integrity
  • Celebrity endorsement

 “You can spend a lifetime building a reputation,
only to have it ruined in a matter of minutes.”

                Reputation Advocate

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Facing a change in the way one looks after an injury is not a pleasant situation to be in. It is frightening, confusing and, very unsettling.  If a disfigurement is highly visible it sometimes necessitates a change in other aspects of the person’s identity in order to balance his or her appearance.   Depending on where the scarring is and the extent of it, a person may never be able to be comfortable being viewed in public again.  They most likely will become victims of social stigma because of their scars.

In the case of severe burn injuries, trying to camouflage all the skin tissue that has been affected may not be the most realistic approach.  Imparting this knowledge to a person who is coping with the after effects of wound scarring and its management by pointing out these limitations is the best way to be truly helpful under such circumstances.  

Aesthetic experts trained in cosmetic rehabilitation are the number one source of information and professional advice in these patient care situations.   Their role is to discuss and provide various options to these individuals whose images have been compromised.   Obviously, in the short amount of time that the patient has with the trained aesthetic provider, he or she could never hope to duplicate this level of expertise.  It is up to the camouflage therapist to determine what techniques the patient can and cannot perform to prevent them from having feelings of defeat.  If the solution is too complicated it will pose an even greater threat for the patient and could create a future reluctance on their part to participate in the proposed treatment afterward.

 In working with patients who are just coming to terms with unexpected disfigurement it is important to consider the emotional impact and to not compound the problem with an approach that is too intricate.  Some patients (those perhaps, that have been in accidents) may never be able to fully perform the procedure independently because of physical limitations that accompany their injury.  Patients who struggle with dexterity issues can quickly become overwhelmed.  It is important to understand the patient’s emotions and stresses at the time of their session.   This is why all decisions for care must be thoughtfully considered before taking action.  Easy routine applications further the patient’s sense of self-esteem because the results are achievable and, if correctly performed by patients they will experience a healthy sense of accomplishment.

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Good Morning,

Self-care is an important factor that if neglected can diminish our intentions regardless of how determined we are to make a difference in the lives of our clients / patients.   If our energy is low and we are worried, distracted, or angry, our thoughts gradually become paralyzed and we begin to lose sight of our purpose and our creativity.  If we continue to mistreat ourselves by abandoning the things that matter most to us we become more and more helpless, more rebellious and less able to function.  The further away from self-care we get the harder it is to inspire others to do what they must do in order to achieve the results we promise.  Each of us has a reservoir that we draw from when we find ourselves depleted from the rigors of our routines or from the stresses associated with our jobs and our lives.  This reservoir is not limitless. It must be replenished periodically. If we do not participate in activities that balance our work and our life we lose our ability to tap into our full potential.  If we continue to lean toward overwork we begin to weaken our resolve.  When we are depleted we do not feel valued or fulfilled by our efforts to assist others.  We just feel empty.  If we drive ourselves to exhaustion we can be guaranteed that we will demonstrate signs of our self-neglect and it will be noticed by those we serve.  Erratic mood swings, disorganization, loss of appetite, sleep deprivation are all indicators that it is time to think about engaging in activities that will help us to revitalize ourselves.  

There are many things that we can do to bring us back to life but first and foremost, we must understand that there is a need to step-back and reconsider what is happening to us emotionally and physically. Sometimes this is not something we can do alone.  We need to surround ourselves with role models who can show us by example how we can better support ourselves.  These are people who we see have succeeded in striking a healthy balance in their own lives.  They have a good attitude and are very proactive in attending to their own special needs.  They have searched for and have found coping strategies that help them manage and bring out the best in themselves and, even more importantly, that have worked. 

If you find this to be a time of low energy and high stress you may choose to learn some new self-directed behaviors for self-modification to build a stronger and a better you.  What follows is seven instant self-support systems you can immediately participate in that will help give you a new lease of life. Select any or all and start a file where you can return to these very powerful strategies that are all part of your new “better me” campaign.

Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner

Music Baths for Relaxation and Concentration – 

10 Minute relaxes 2 (inc alpha brainwaves) Such relaxing Piano music by Paul Collier


Study music (for final exam study time…)


 Baroque Music for Concentration – audio and visual


Stress Reducers

Brain Wave Vibration –disconnect from the intensity of worry


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Hello There,

Some aestheticians carve out careers for themselves based on their problem solving skills.   In the field we refer to these unique care giving providers as aesthetic solution experts.  Most are self-appointed because of their intense interest in helping persons with serious issues find their way through barriers that prevent this special population from appearing to look normal. 

They are generally put to work on cases where there has previously been no hope for resolution, unique situations where they are called in to search for and present to patients several different aesthetic solutions.   What makes these aesthetic problem solvers special is that they foster independence.   Although, they provide their problem solving skills in a variety of ways, they keep their aesthetic applications simple so as not to confuse the patient who must be able to duplicate the process on their own. 

Unlike other beauty experts, aesthetic problem solvers enjoy being challenged with dilemmas and obstacles that would terrify most technicians if they were asked to resolve them. Instead, they seek them out.  What makes them so valuable to physician practice settings and medical spas is their knack for identifying potential vulnerabilities in treatment approaches before they even offer them to patients, thus, preventing them from losing hope.  Once a method of aesthetic repair is decided upon, their role changes into a process manager whose responsibility it is to ensure that the proposed aesthetic therapy runs as smoothly as possible and that the patient does not become entangled in all the performance details. 

There are different levels of aesthetic problem solvers. Their superiority status depends on their ability to navigate around unforeseen circumstances and still carry out their patient’s objectives.  They have the know-how and experience to handle these problems which arise when the patient is learning how to imitate their efforts and something goes horribly wrong.  To investigate what to do and how to get the patient to do it, they immediately begin to ask a series of questions.  This keeps the patient involved in recognizing potential solutions without experiencing feelings of inferiority or even temporary defeat.  This is just one of the examples of the specialized tasks that these trouble shooters do.

Competition for the most attractive working conditions is tough because salaries are among the highest in the field.  Aesthetic problem solving experts are expected to have advanced education in areas related to the resolution of appearance dilemmas.  A common requirement might be a college course in theatrical makeup applications, camouflage therapy, several psychology programs or, advanced studies in life coaching.  Certain prerequisites are always expected such as: strong interpersonal skills, the ability to assign tasks and special knowledge associated with their role in clinical workplaces.  Beyond these qualifications, requirements vary depending on the medical specialty and the compulsory insights required.  Experience with many different patient types is always preferred since practice proficiency associated with aesthetic troubleshooting is gained through the observation of specific challenges and the numerous opportunities to work out a number of unsatisfactory outcomes.    

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Good Morning Everyone,

The aesthetician leads his or her clients to a deeper understanding of skin care by performing the skills of his or her profession.  In this instance the aesthetician is a teacher.  Skin care specialists who do not share their knowledge with their clients do them more harm than good.  Today’s skin care client knows a little about a lot of things. There is so much information available that it makes it difficult for our clients to comprehend all that they need to know about their particular skin type and condition and how to care for it.  It is inconceivable how the average person without specialized training could sift through this enormous body of aesthetic knowledge without a license in skin care. 

Without the right information clients cannot perform the correct actions on their own and see results.  The challenge for the aesthetic provider is to convince his or her clients of the necessary measures that must be taken to clear up their problem.  In many cases our clients are so confused they have no idea of what to do.  What is worse is that some clients do not want to learn at all.  Some clients are easily threatened by any serious attempts to expand their awareness so they will have a more complete understanding of their problem. 

Lack of treatment care information keeps clients in the dark and makes them dependent on their aesthetician.  Each client’s treatment and home care plan is different depending on the person’s specific needs.   It is absolutely necessary for the skin care provider to urge their clients to learn all they can about the active ingredients in their products and the benefits they will receive if they use them according to specification. 

Clients who are not well schooled in product usage can easily make mistakes in their application processes that can further complicate their conditions.  It is the responsibility of the aesthetic provider to not only coordinate the steps of the plan in a sequential order but to easily explain the process to assure that the client will perform their home care treatments properly.  

Educating a client in a treatment setting takes skill and discretion.  In many instances certain components of the training session have to take place behind closed doors in a quiet and tranquil setting while the client is experiencing relaxation.   The aesthetician has to make certain that the client is listening carefully so that they will not be misunderstood and they will depart the session well-informed.  What complicates this type of instruction, and makes it even more challenging is the time limits involved. The aesthetician must be able to relay the appropriate knowledge and get their point across in a stress-free, hassle-free manner and yet, still be firm and clear when issuing instructions.  Teaching in a treatment room is tricky because the client is in a captive situation.  The skin care provider has to be careful not to come across as someone who is taking advantage of such circumstances.  Otherwise, they will be perceived as unethical and unprofessional and their clients could end up questioning their conduct especially, if the client were to view the instruction being offered as nothing more than an elaborate sales pitch.

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