Archive for March, 2010

Good Day Everyone,  

There is great value in using sequence applications as part of our treatment protocols.  They bring structure and greater clarity to our therapeutic processes.  They are the first measures that we take toward establishing a more unified and rational approach to our procedures.  A series of sequenced actions keep us highly focused. These steps help us to think about the necessary actions that relate to successful outcomes. Sequences are the best way to stay true to our treatment plans, predict our session times, and to maintain the momentum of the different practice methods that are all an integral part of our therapeutic applications.  Sequences make it possible for us to concentrate on irregularities that appear along the way without losing track of what situated action comes next. They prevent us from deviation. Sequences make apparent specific connections enhancing our reasoning process.  They support identification of patterns so we can better interpret, analyze and explain what we are doing at any given time during our procedures.  It would be very difficult if not impossible to attempt to perform treatments without these successive elements that formulate the basis of our aesthetic applications.

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Hello Everyone,

I was very fortunate to grow up with an elegant and sophisticated grandmother who used to say to me that aging, allows us to gather up a whole lifetime of female powers to become (if we so desire) an enchantress.  She was a charming and a delightful woman who seemed to cast spells on everyone who had the pleasure of her acquaintance.  Her beauty was full of possibility which called into question the downside of growing older.  To the world she left a legacy of a woman who represented the allure of the 1920s glamour that few of us living today have seen.  She obeyed no natural laws of aging preferring instead to reinvent her image for every occasion. My grandmother was an original.  She was a stunning sensation of San Francisco society life.  For many years she was a grand entertainer. She had a penchant for using the city’s most prestigious hotels as a backdrop for her trendy parties and lavish get-togethers.  As a mature woman she was the happiest she had ever been in her life. Her life as I recall it was a hub for continuous excitement.  Growing up with her was special because she made every passing moment special.  She was a dream and all her friends loved her because she could make the simplest event uniquely memorable.  Everyone courted her favor. Out of everyone I have ever known, she more than any other one woman, was an inspiration to me.  Years passed and to me she remained ageless. My grandmother lived well into her 90s.  Even in her last years she held her mystique and a touch of youth remained with her. Her hand grasp was firm, she still beamed and her eyes danced with light. Her smile was warm and inviting and her laugh still infectious.  Despite the fact that age had come upon her and she was a little inattentive and a little vague, all of us who came before her, just gushed in her company.  I have reflected on her beauty so many times. Remembering, how she intermingled her charm and wit with her own special signature attractiveness.  Grandmother’s world was a world of beauty and graciousness, a place that did not allow the entrance of bitterness, personal regrets or frustration. She celebrated aestheticism.  She bewitched everyone with her imagination which she used to entice us to leave our unkind thoughts behind while in her midst.    Never, did my grandmother, despite the physical ravages of her terminal illness, in her final months of life, did she agree to close the doors of hope that she could not remain a timeless icon of beauty and a personification of loveliness.  

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Happy Sunday Morning Everyone!

Again yesterday –for the second time– my husband and I watched the film “Conversations with God, an Uncommon Dialogue. ” It’s the type of movie that has the power to capture my innocence, refreshing it and giving me new hope each time I view it.

The film is about the writing of the original book and the two editions that followed.  It shares the spiritual insights of the author Neale Donald Walsch who was challenged by the most insurmountable losses one could ever dream of imagining until (as he claims) he was visited by the voice of God and began to converse daily with him.  The contents of the book have touched thousands, maybe, by now, millions of lives (including my own) and does not ask us to believe that the material written on each of its pages actually came from God.  The book’s purpose is to produce awakening and to spark a new desire for life for individuals that know that they cannot keep going as they have been.

The message I always get from the book  is that each and every day we awake to the possibility of expressing affection for others without hurtfulness, hidden agendas and bitter jealousies.  The information it contains permits us the chance to live with an entirely new paradigm and, in doing so, set an example to others on how they too can create changes in their lives that will leave them less needy and expectant and more self-satisfied.

  • Every single choice we make comes from either love or fear.
  • Instead of worrying about what others think of us – we should worry about what we think of ourselves.
  • The universe is always conspiring in our favor – always. 
  • Love as much as we can from where we are now.
  • Admit we make mistakes and know we will continue to make mistakes and this is why there is a need to change our lives.
  • Financial abundance and spirituality go hand-and-hand.
  • People involved with spirituality should not be penniless. Our society devalues spirituality.
  •  Imagine a world where people who give get the greatest rewards – the people who connect us, not disconnect us, or, distract us. People such as: teachers, fireman, policeman, nurses, physicians, psychologists, writers, artists, mothers and the like…who contribute in a positive way to our lives.  
  • People are the ones; we have always been the ones – we have been waiting for.
  • Most common form of communication is feeling, if you want to know the truth about a situation or a particular set of circumstances you are embroiled in, reach down into yourself and ask yourself how you are feeling.
  • We all are having a conversation with God all of the time – examples: you go to pick up a phone and you know who is on the other end of the line or, you meet a new person and you feel as if they have come into your life at just the right time with a message for you – these and other coincidences are all indications.
  • When you are running on empty and you have lost yourself is when you are the most open to opportunity.
  • A lot of our behavior is an attempt to destroy ourselves – once we learn that, we will be free.  

 Here is a trailer from the film for you to view :


Interview with author about his book “Happier than God” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c6SqHXrNE-0&NR=1

Guidelines for happiness from the author:


Looking at fear and the impact on our choices and creations


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DeClutter Class 

 Time for some


                                                   Spring Cleaning?



April 15, 22, & 29, 2010

8pm Eastern Daylight time

Let Drs. DeClutter come to your home (by phone, of course!) and help you!

Mary Richardson, Ph.D. & Jane Given, Ph.D.




Set the stage for successful decluttering. Session 1: Set the stage for successful decluttering.

Session 2: Break free of old barriers to decluttering.
Session 3: Take charge with tested tools. 


Call (712) 775-7400

When prompted, enter the code  671797#

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As care giving professionals, we can help people cope with many things.  We can always find better ways and means to serve our clients and patients.  We can combine our services with confidence-building approaches that help promote better living styles and self-appreciation.  As aesthetic healers, we have access to many valuable resources that can be useful in our efforts to make those whom we attend to more self-assured and secure.  We can take pride in the extra attention we can give them because the manner in which we work allows us the intimacy to do so.

Sometimes the circumstances in our lives lead to embarrassing moments that leave us blushing and running for cover.  Awkward moments happen to everyone and are impossible to avoid. I know that I have had my share, and the people I assist have related their stories of similar situations which, given a sufficient amount of time, we can look back at and laugh.  In the interim,  we carry the feelings of insecurity they cause. Sometimes these emotional scars trigger self-defeating thoughts brought back to life by other unpleasant episodes that challenge our dignity until we find a way to interpret such situations. 

We all have our own way of helping our clients and patients regain balance after they convey some mistake to us that they made and that caused them to turn beet red. Many times it is just sitting quietly and listening in horror to the gruesome details as they relay them to us in an all too visual account of their awful moments. Some of us communicate our compassion through empathetic listening and many times that is all that is required.

However, embarrassment comes in many textures, tones and shades. We all want to put our best face forward and not fall flat on our backs in the presence of others.  But, unfortunately, life is not a scene out of a movie. We cannot rehearse each and every moment.  We have all had them, those never forget times when all eyes were upon us and we flubbed up and instantly became a victim of a faux pas.  That’s the thing about embarrassing moments–they are not predictable.  One moment everything is fine and the next “oh no!” and our world has been shaken; and, in our minds the damage is comparable to that of an earthquake.

 In his book, OOPs! Or, Life’s Awful Moments, Art Linkletter describes many “I wish I could just roll-up into a tiny ball and disappear episodes.” A woman who was dining out detected the diner next to her had left a couple of pieces of steak on his plate. Thinking that the meat would provide a tasty treat for her two dogs waiting out in the car, she rolled up the steak in a napkin. Suddenly, she felt a tap on her shoulder.  The diner had returned from making a quick call and was aghast at what he was seeing.  Linkletter also tells the tale of a Navy admiral in Mission Beach, California. After dressing for a party, he arrived at the house where the get-together was being held in full-dress uniform. His uniform decorated with all his ribbons, metals and gold braid made his presence imposing to the young child who answered the door.  When asked who had just rung the doorbell? The little girl swung around, and, called out, “I don’t know who is at the door – but I think it’s God!”  Who among us had not shown up at some affair feeling overdressed or out of sync with everyone else there?

 What follows is some pretty good resources we can share with our clients and patients to modify the aftershock of those earth shaking moments that make us scream out, “Oops!”  I know this information can be very valuable in helping them cope because I have personally researched and benefited from the knowledge. It is not just applicable to  those to whom we provide treatments,  but it is intended to be beneficial to our co-workers, members of our family and, of course, our friends.  

 There is nothing better than seeing the relief on someone’s face when you realize you helped them experience a sense of ease with a situation that caused them to feel unaccepted or set apart because of an awkward moment they had to live through. This is just another example of how we can help by coming up with resources that will lead to people feeling more comfortable in their own skin. 

Others References on the Subject:






20 to 1 – Most Embarrassing Moments: #10 (Game
2 min 11 sec – Jul 8, 2006

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Hello Everyone,

Everyone who services clients or patients wants and needs to be considered credible.   It is a major aspect of our professional influence.  Certain words lend us credibility. Words such as informed, trained, qualified, skilled, intelligence and expert all tell others that we are credible professionals.  There are four ways we can express our credibility: (1) by being assertive and bold (2) by our posturing and composure (calm, relaxed and poised), (3) by our sociability – being friendly (4) by inspiring others.  Fluid communication is a key factor to credibility.  When we can readily share what we know about our goods, services and products and we are confident in our ability to do so, we indicate that we are credible.  Citing evidence is another way to gain credibility.  Doing background research is always worthy of our trouble and our time because it reinforces our point of view.  

Our credibility matters. Persons who are likeable are considered more credible.  Being well thought of takes time, it is not something that happens overnight.  A great way to get our clients / patients to warm up to us is by being more charismatic and by using our sense of humor.  Everyone loves to laugh. Humor is a great leveler as long as it is put to use carefully and not excessively.   

Check Your credibility By Answering the Following Questions:

Are you experienced in your area of expertise or inexperienced?

Are you perceived as an expert?

Are you well-informed or uninformed?

Are you trained or not so well-trained?

Are you qualified or unqualified in what you do?

Are you skilled or unskilled?

What education do you still need to add to your professional profile?

You Can Build More credibility By:

Thinking about what you can do to establish greater trustworthiness.

Questioning what you need to add to your professional character?

Searching for ways to provide your clients / patients with a greater guarantee of safety?

Coming up with ideas that will increase your goodwill in the community.

Thinking of ways to demonstrate your personal integrity.

Participating in courses and practices that will add to your current level of expertise.

credibility is a prerequisite of true success.  To be incredibly competent and credible we must know the nature of our business and understand our practices. We must be able to anticipate challenges and take accountability for our outcomes.  credibility is a trademark that is earned after years and years of research, education, devotion to our clients /patients and much dedicated practice.

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Good Morning Everyone,

There are some things in life that we accept without question but should we? On the surface they appear to be true and logical. But if we look a little closer contradictions abound. Here are some of my favorite quotes (see links below) and lying truths from the book Lying Truths – A Critical Scrutiny of Current Beliefs and Conventions:

Merit is always recognized

The Encyclopedia of Ignorance

Of those who say nothing, few are silent

Education can change society

The truth about lying

You can prove anything with statistics

The nothing but theory….

Everything is vague to a degree you do not realize till you have tried to make it precise

Human beings desire happiness

Achievement bores people to death

No one gossips about other people’s secret virtues

Trust but verify

We swallow greedily any lie that flatters us, but we sip only little by little at a truth we find bitter

Insanity is the accuracy of a logical mind

Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing ever happened

The nice thing about being a celebrity is that when you bore people, they think it’s their fault

All movements go too far

The greatest problem for any thinker is stating a problem in a way that will allow a solution

When a man is all wrapped up in himself he makes a pretty small package

The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it, but what they become by it.

Of all the pulpits from which the human voice is ever set forth, none reaches as far as from the grave

Education is leading souls to what is best and making what is best out of them




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