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There are many ways to view criticism. The task that artists must take on when they finish a piece of work is to be able to deal with the disappointing responses that come from their critics and to not let them dampen their spirits, to continue to create, especially, when they are doing the very best that they can.  

 Criticism can be viewed many ways – Here are just a few to consider:

Denigration – scorn and disrespect

Lack of praise or appreciation – disdain over numerous attempts

Poor evaluation – another’s assessment of one’s artistic results

Critique of one’s work – appraisal of one’s efforts

Unsolicited comments – unwelcome remarks

Analytical analysis – methodical reasoning

Progress report – ongoing opinions

Disparagement – belittling of work or harsh ridicule

 Censure – reproach for efforts made

Deduction – inference

Criticism is merely that, a way that people interpret an artist’s efforts to meet his or her imaginative goals.  Overly critical observers cast dispersion on what the artist does based on their opinions of the his or her work.  Some people are better at evaluating an artist’s vision than others, but in any case, whatever comments are made they are subjective and remain subjective until the artist chooses to invite them to be anything more than someone else’s truth.

 I have never met an artist that would prefer to be deprecated rather than fully appreciated.  I personally see little value in attacking someone else’s art because doing so might interfere with their intuitive attempts at creativity, and that is not what I want to do with an artist who has the daring to put something out into the world with his or her signature on it.  

Artists are creators of art, they are individuals who produce and initiate things that are unique and different unto them. I, for one, do not expect them to be performers as such, although a few of them are at times, equally as adept at being one-of-a-kind, personalities.

Many artists tend to dress, speak or act out their art; their outrageous behavior is what makes them even more intriguing, which I believe is what encourages them to be so outlandish and eccentric.

5 Ways How to Survive a Slight

Self-control  – Aim for A Responsive Reaction, use it to Build a Creative Foundation

Build a Support Platform that Connects you with  People who Naturally Admire your Creative Nature

Be Your Own Work of Art – See Everything Else As Just an Extension of Who You Are

Let Your Projects be Your Reward – Make the Process More Important than the Outcome

Open Up to Other People’s Opinions and Recognize Them for Just What They Are – Just That!

Others Views on the Subject –

Handling Criticism Phobia –


Overcoming Phobias including reacting to unfair criticism


Coping with Infuriating, Mean and Critical People


Breaking the Cycle – how to respond to overly critical people


 Why are some people overly critical

http://www.amazon.com/Coping-Infuriating-Mean-Critical-People/dp/0275989844 –





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I started thinking about writing this blog with one question in mind, what is dating about in 2011? I did a little research and came up with the following insights, I hope you will agree or share your comments with me on the subject:

Good Dating Judgment Comes From Experience and from Getting the Inside Scoop –

  • There are no “steadfast rules” anymore
  • Women are still battling stereotypes
  • Too many men are confused about their masculinity
  • Financials are a serious consideration in potential mating opportunities
  • Women are still looking for security over love but many still do not realize it
  • Men whether they admit it or not are looking to marry-up to improve their status
  • Women with children are not out of the dating game as much as they think they are
  • Some men actually prefer to work their way into a family unit rather than start one up from scratch
  •  Men like women to carry their own weight but don’t know how to express their preference
  • Men need to feel as if they are needed
  • Women are less in touch with their femininity and more about trying to meet marketing dictates about how they should look and act
  • Men know the difference and shy away from women who have to try too hard to be “pretty”

If you want to be a successful dating who to Stay Clear of the Following:

  • A person who falls in love too fast
  • A name dropper – someone who tries to overly impress you
  • Men or women who mistreat pets or who have no use for them
  • People who hates children or cannot be bothered by their presence even for a short time
  • Those who lives in a completely sterile environments devoid of any plants, flowers or any other signs of natural life
  • People who cannot mention having a good time without connecting enjoyment to substances such as: alcohol, recreational drugs or enormous amounts of rich food
  • Candidates who never want to introduce you to family or close friends
  • People who act awkward when you suggest that they meet your family and friends and make all kinds of excuses to avoid potential encounters
  • Shifts the conversation when you mention long-term plans of any sort
  • Speaks only of issues and concerns that involve him or her personally
  • Expects too much from you and resists turn taking
  • Wants to share intimate details about life way too soon in your relationship
  • Keeps talking about Ex’s and how he or she was victimized by them

 Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.  ~Auguste Rodin

CNN’s Matchmaker’s Tips on Dating


Thoughts on Serial Dating


Some Profound Very Personal Female Insights on the Why’s and Wherefores of Dating


Pointers on How To Enchant Women


Cashing in on Corporate Dating Nuances – A Glimpse into a Premier Dating Service


Sexual Politics in Higher Education and Beyond – Dating Bans in the Corporate World


   Tips on Avoiding Dating Discomfort


Intelligent Interactions – what to say and not to say on a date



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We are what we most frequently do, I like to think and communicate my thoughts, my medium is writing.  I enjoy transferring my interpretations of people, places and things onto a daily blog for the purpose of sharing my perceptions with others who like to communicate their ideas and write about them.

It is not hard to come up with topics to write about, in fact, I am always jotting down something that captures my attention so that I can later expand on the notion.  The problem is not developing themes but in trying to put everything I have considered into a context that will (1) be relevant to others, (2) make sense to others (3) be memorable enough to merit the time that it takes for my readers to wade through my blog.

I find that there are so many exciting subjects in this world to cover that even after eighteen months of daily blogging, I am never at a loss as to what I will write about, it is just a question of how can I get everything covered, in a week or a month or before the end of the year.

Blogging, in my estimation is the best thing that has ever happened to me because it permits me an opportunity to learn new things every, single, day and to transfer my knowledge to others, who like me, want to broaden their understanding of everything and everyone around them.

Over the past year and a half, I have met a lot of nice people, brilliant human beings actually, that I might never have interfaced with had it not been for the process of blogging.  I am very appreciative of the privilege of free speech, there is not a day that goes by that I am not grateful to all those who have fought to make it possible for me to have a voice in this world. 

I love the Internet, having lived and having worked at a time when it did not exist, I never take it for granted. It has changed my life in so many ways by making it possible to have access to just about any and all forms of knowledge imaginable.  Years ago, I could have never conceived of the opportunity to send my words out into the universe over a system such as the World Wide Web.  What I really find amazing is how we can travel, visiting places we would not otherwise be able to venture to without even leaving our domiciles and how it allows us, virtually, within seconds, to connect with cultures from all over the planet.

I never know, when I sit down to write on a topic what I will learn and how I can incorporate that information into my blog content. It is always a pleasant revelation, most of the time I come up with an approach that I had not planned on taking, something completely out of the blue, simply because I become so inspired by what was disclosed to me, in my research. 

Providing links to other sites and expanding on the subject I am writing about is what makes blogging so interesting. I try to find opposite opinions or to cite references that support what I have written.  Whenever I run into another writer’s views, especially, those that mimic my own, I feel as if I am part of an enormous consensus.  It is a wonderful feeling to know that there are people out there, somewhere that I probably will never, ever, meet but with whom I know I share the same perceptions.  I just cannot envision a better human experience than relating to strangers in a way that substantiates my deepest beliefs in my own powers of observation by sharing the same impressions.

I hope that you too, will consider blogging, and if you do, you will take to it, as I have, and it will have a profound effect on how you see the world and everyone in it.

More on This Topic –

Cashing in on Blog Craze


Start Your Blog Today!


How to Find Readers for Your Blog


Great Blog! – Fuel for Leaders


Daily Blog Tips


Blog Lesson


Photo Blog


How to Start a Popular Blog


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Clarification of the factors leading to “Makeup Artistry Intelligence

  • Entering into domain of more complex aesthetic concepts
  • Preponderance of problematic obstructions to aesthetic enhancements
  • Plentitude of cosmetic artistry knowledge
  • Social propensity –  emotional challenges
  • Warmth and control

Social Considerations of Aesthetic Conversion

Practitioners of Cosmetic Science

  • Taking profile readings and gauging temperature of client
  • Providing pathways for the attainment of personal enhancement / beauty personification in the physical realm
  • Assistance in bridging new states of identity – discovery and reflection
  • Strong sense of involvement
  • Hyper-sensitivity to unseen phenomena
  • Evaluation of subject’s expectations
  • Mindfulness of makeup subject’s concerns
  • Harsh scrutiny and submission

 Awareness of subject’s emotional stages and dynamics involved when moving toward greater self-acceptance

  • Adaptation to invisible forces of resistance involved in aesthetic transformation
  • Consideration of client’s self-appraisal of cosmetic enhancement
  • Helpful persuasion and positive reinforcement
  • Outgrowth observed
  • Triumph of treatment
  • Admiration of facial façade
  • Ultimate value attainment

Technical Approaches and Solutions Analyzed

  • Effect of different colors
  • Textures and tones
  • Technical precision – control over implements and cosmetic aids
  • Understanding of facial plane
  • Bringing order to disorder of facial features
  • Taking counter measures to neutralize imperfections
  • Attention to straight and right angles
  • Recognizing limitations of makeup artistry until it translates into effective learning exercise
  • Building up of subject’s technical skills through a well thought-out sequence of competencies
  • Assurance of transference of cosmetic talents and technical expertise

Treatment Complete

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Everyone has a different idea about what constitutes a great weekend.  My idea of two days of fun varies from week-to-week depending on what was going on when my week came to an end.  I always experience a sense of excitement on Friday afternoons even if I am not working a routine five day schedule.  It is nice to have a couple of days to play with and to make special plans.  Some of my weekends are all booked up with leisure activities, while during others; I just kind of hang loose and only participate in spontaneous events. 

The best part of weekends is that I allow myself to enjoy guilt-free play.  The main thing is that I try to refrain from any reminders of work, at least until late Sunday night when I have to begin to prepare for, and get organized, to meet all the demands for the following week. 

Every Monday, I take a few minutes to reflect on how I spent the weekend.  Recalling all the wonderful memories leaves me feeling energized and ready to get back into my work.  I have made a list of some of my favorite activities that I believe amount to a great weekend experience.  I am certain you will have your own ideas to add. Enjoy!

Here is what I think makes a weekend really special. I hope you will agree.

  • Sleeping in
  • Breakfast in bed
  • Delightful neighbors
  • Baseball games
  • Starring up at the stars
  • Playing cards
  • Long drives in the country or along the shoreline
  • Dinner and dancing
  • Sunday brunch
  • Dinner parties
  • Home visits
  • Saturday night dates
  • Washing the car
  • Catching up with paperwork
  • Window shopping in quaint little townships
  • Lunch with the girls
  • Attending a concert, symphony, opera or a ballet
  • Going to the museum
  • Meeting friends at the open market
  • Grocery shopping for the coming week
  • An afternoon snooze
  • A cup of tea and a good book
  • Volunteering to help out at church
  • Car racing
  • Rollerblading in the park
  • Walking along the beach
  • Surfing
  • Sailing
  • Motor boating
  • Escaping to a bed and breakfast for two whole days
  • Listening to our favorite music CD
  • Picnics
  •  Facials
  • Manicures
  • Massages


  • Buying a new dress
  • Getting a new hairdo or a great haircut
  • Taking _________to the dog park to play
  • Walking in the woods
  • Waterskiing
  • Browsing in a favorite bookstore
  • Meeting a friend for coffee
  • Flying a kite
  • Hanging out doing absolutely nothing!


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Confidence is what separates a person from everyone else. It is a state of mind that is developed through constant self-evaluation and responsiveness to life.  Confident people are extremely special, when we encounter them, something they say or do, always leaves a lasting impression on us and we cannot help but think of them often.

Confident people:

  • Acknowledge human value
  • Know when to agree and how to say so when they don’t
  • Work at staying true to their beliefs
  • Strive to keep their emotions in check
  • Understand and allow for cultural differences
  • Recognize that there aren’t any absolutes
  • Send positive messages that will influence
  • Never grow to accustomed to comfort
  • Create buffers
  • Participate in positive self-talk
  • See themselves as a resource to other people
  • Open their hearts to children and the elderly
  • Prefer to lead rather than follow
  • Give more than they take
  • Don’t let toxic people discourage them
  • Allow their feelings to speak to them
  • Make commitments
  • Know what is really important to them
  • Are aware of their own vulnerabilities
  • Refuse to let resentment build up
  • Talk themselves out of anger
  • Accept the consequences of their actions
  • Are non- judgmental
  • Don’t deny their talents and abilities
  • Express their essence
  • Pay attention their internal signals
  • Occasionally, sing a little off-key but don’t get all hung up about it
  • Learn from their setbacks
  • Allow themselves to become elated rather than merely happy
  • See their good fortune rather than begrudging their circumstances when issues arise
  • Bring people around them together by their good-natured spirit

More on the Topic

10 Habits of Confident Women


How to get people to see you as more confident


Catcher strategy as a metaphor for confidence


You Tube – Confidence matters


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Defaulters are persons in our lives that issue streams of false promises, they are the unaccountable, the “Yes” people.  The biggest problem in dealing with defaulters is that they come across as reliable when in actuality they are anything but that.  Defaulters are energy drainers, they take up your time, get you to invest in their concerns and rarely, if ever reciprocate.  They are easy enough to identify. They engage you in making plans with them that never seem to pan out. They set appointments and cancel, generally, at the last-minute or do not even call at all.  And worse, when you call them on it, they pretend as if you somehow are confused about their part of the social bargain.

Defaulters are misleaders.  They are in the most simplistic sense, people who want to feel as if they have it all together, but more often than not, they really don’t.  They are individuals who are always looking for a better opportunity somewhere off on the horizon.  In one aspect, they mean what they say, that is, at least in the moment when they are saying it, and in another instant, they are completely detached from the situation and acting as if they never said a word. 

One must be careful not to buy into defaulters.  Some of these folks can be downright self-serving and highly manipulative. They come with undisclosed agendas, and leave with whatever they can get.  Never mind telling yourself that you can have it out with them and clear the air, once you have been stung in your dealings with them there is no turning back…defaulters are like bees in this way, they will sting if you corner them.

Defaulters can on some level be compared to passive aggressive personality types, in that their actions are not on the up and up.  They hide behind a slew of excuses for their irresponsible behaviors, most of which do not hold water, the bottom line being that they think we are just not that important to them.  Eventually, we grow tired of defaulters. We see through their false intentions and we know in our hearts they consider our relationships with them – very meaningless. They usually end up moving on to easier targets and again, repeat the cycle, over and over again, until they get found out.

Defaulters, however, do have one redeeming quality, they help us to see our own level of accountability and they remind us of how it feels to be let down. They are spiritual teachers of a sort, who pass on just another one of many life lessons about the imperfections of human beings.  They are less than perfect people just like us and so, there is after all, a connection between us that is very evident, we all have a tendency to let people down and falter on our word.

The final conclusion I have come to is this, when we are not of our word, there is something missing inside of us that eventually trips us up. It is our inability to commit to what we say we will.  There is a component of trust that needs to be reinforced not just to satisfy the faith that others need or would like to have from us, but that we ourselves require to turn inward for our own tenacity of spirit.  Every time we let someone down, we silently tell ourselves that we are incapable of being there.  Not showing up is always a serious issue, especially when we are the ones who are leaving ourselves in the lurch.

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 If things go wrong, don’t go with them.  ~Roger Babson, Quotations About Worry.

Worry is not a natural state of mind, concern maybe, but not worry.  Most of us are aware that worrisome events are a regular occurrence in life. None of us are given a pass to escape our problems; we all know that they come at us on a regular basis and that they happen to everyone. The difference between those of us who worry relentlessly about these things, and others who do not, is how we end up processing our individual challenges. Each of us approaches our concerns very differently.  None of us can escape the fallout from our trials and daily tribulations; however, how we go about enduring the inevitable mishaps we are confronted with, is purely optional. 

We worry when we are:

  • Overinvested
  • Underutilized
  • Unprepared
  • Undercompensated
  • Misunderstood
  • Mislead

When our funds are:

  • Low
  • Business is slow
  • When our money is held back
  • And, when our funds are Misappropriated

When we are in the dark about:

  • Where we are going
  • Where we have been
  • How we got to where we are
  • And, how we will get out

When our:

  • Goals seem impossible
  • Our lives appear momentarily tragic
  • thoughts are more negative than positive
  • And, when our lives our careening out of control

When we attempt:

  • To communicate with people with closed minds and hearts
  • To build bridges and nothing is ever cohesive
  • To Balance our compulsively busy lives
  • To mend fences
  • To heal our disappointments and sadness
  • And, when we continue to strive for absolute but impossible to reach perfectionism

Worry is all about “the what-if’s” in life. Albert Ellis the well-known psychologist author of Rational Emotive Therapy, reminded us to be careful not to make mountains out of molehills, in other words, not to focus on the things that we label stressful events and refine them as full-blown catastrophes.  Worry interferes with our natural inclination to be happy and optimistic.  It makes us overreact. If we let it, worry can rob us of the things that make us joyous and prevent us from reclaiming our bliss.

How to Know When we Have Moved beyond Worry

  • When we no longer focus on the attention of others
  • When we begin to feel as if we can share our feelings with those we can trust
  • When we discover that there is a commonality that exists and draws us all together
  • When we are willing to teach as well as learn
  • When we practice mutuality
  • When we educate ourselves about ourselves
  • When we allow ourselves to live in the moment
  • When we refuse to give into the strain of our burdens
  • And basically, when we decide not to turn our backs on our spirit

What Else We Can Look At When Eliminating Worry

Why we Worry


A Guide to Rational Living – psychologist Albert Ellis , a video – focusing on the three must’s


Shameless Happiness – How Albert Ellis Created REBT (the view that we take of the events that happen to us)


Slide Presentation – REBT (Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy) Core Irrational Beliefs


Step-by-Step System to Stop Worry


E-How Health


 The Worrywart’s Companion – Learn about the practice of under reacting and a lot more!


Welcome to the Quote Garden


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Transformation agents are all about the personal expression, growth and development of people.  They are exceptional  individuals who create platforms, artistic or otherwise that inspire achievement and greater awareness.  They are supportive professionals who link their talents and knowledge to very specialized careers that center on implementing changes for others. 

More often than not, they are perfectionists, constantly scrutinizing their communication skills and their expertise so that they can continually improve and strengthen their level of proficiency.  Transformation agents make us think that maybe we too, can  feel or present at our best.

They tend to be attracted to professional positions that demand that they deliver at their absolute best.

The list that follows is in no way complete:

  • Problem solvers
  • Social workers
  • Teachers
  • Public speakers
  • Coaches
  • Instructors
  • Designers
  • Wardrobe consultants
  • Interior Consultants
  • Jewish scholars
  • Pastors
  • Priests
  • Musicians
  • Dancers
  • Florists
  • Nurses
  • Artists
  • Psychologists
  • Beauty experts
  • Aestheticians
  • Massage therapists
  • Rehabilitation counselors
  • Blues singers
  • Politicians
  • Emergency healthcare workers
  • Certified nursing assistants
  • Culinary experts
  • Cartoonists
  • Celebrity hosts

 More on this Topic of Personal Excellence –

Personal transformation tools


The Inspiration Brought to us by Ballet Dancers


Electric Feel Musical Performance


Descriptions of Agents of Change


A One of A Kind Cake Designers – you won’t believe their use of their talent



Exceptional People Magazine


Janis Joplin –


Summertime – Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong


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There are as many reasons for people to create things as there are inventions. I often wonder what is it that makes innovators want to innovate. For example, take Coronel Sanders; he became interested in cooking as a boy after his father passed on. His mother had to go out and work and he was left in charge of feeding his siblings. Cooking became an everyday way of life for Sanders. Later on, he ran a gas station and served up his famous fried chicken at a nearby local dining room. He did not create his famous recipe for his southern fried chicken until he was 50 years old and the rest of the story is history.

Elvis Presley quickly made a name for himself not just as a musician but as an ace stage performer because of his electrifying presence in front of his audiences. His body movements and the way he rotated his hips and his arms while maintaining his balance while singing was legendary. He was considered so racy that he was almost thrown off the Ed Sullivan’s television show by the program’s censors who labeled his performance obscene and only allowed him to be filmed from the waist up.

John Z. De Lorean a troubleshooter for car manufacturers became a maverick when he up and quit his position after turning around General Motor’s Pontiac and Chevrolet divisions to start his own company. His imagination and determination produced a one of a kind stainless steel sports car. Why did he do it? Because some little boys want to grow up and drive fancy race cars, while others just want to design, build and sell them.

Barbie was born after Ruth Handler noticed that her daughter was assigning her paper dolls adult roles. Up until that time (1955) most dolls were mainly infants. While traveling in Europe she came across a grown figured female doll which she acquired and named Barbie after her daughter Barbara. Handler brought the prototype back to the States and with the help of an engineer revamped the model. Over 350,000 dolls were sold the first year of production. Barbie’s official birthday is March 9th 1959.

Each and every pioneer has their individual reasons for wanting to contribute something new and innovative. Some are inspired with a sudden flash of insight whereas; others come up with ideas because of their background. One thing that is certain is that all of these innovators were interested in breaking ground by bringing something fresh and original to the forefront for others to enjoy.

More on This Topic

Colonel Sanders


Elvis Presley


DeLorean’s life


Barbie’s History




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