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“We should consider every day lost on which we have not danced at least once.” 
Friedrich Nietzsche

 There is nothing more enchanting than watching people dance; their spirit always seems to rise to the occasion. 

 

When the music starts one simply cannot sit still, every part of one’s being is affected.  

There are so many different moves to observe; at times it seems impossible to take them all in.

 

Dancing is an art form, one that satisfies a person’s desire to experience the freedom of openness.

It is difficult to view a ballet without feeling the dancer’s movements on a very personal level.

Tap dancing is enthralling and invigorating, whereas the Tango is just downright sexy.

And, what could be more sensuous than belly dancing?

Everyone knows that a good waltz can make one feel as if he or she has wings on his or her heels.

On with the dance! let joy be unconfined;
No sleep till morn, when Youth and Pleasure meet
To chase the glowing hours with flying feet.
~George Gordon, Lord Byron, Childe Harold’s Pilgrimage 

Sensational Scenes from More Than Memorable Moments of Dance

Scene From Film “Scent of A Woman”  

Scene From Scent of A Woman

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dBHhSVJ_S6A

Liza Minnelli’s performance in the movie “Cabaret”

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=moOamKxW844

35 Best Dance Sequences in Film

http://www.myspace.com/video/vid/5680728#pm_cmp=vid_OEV_P_P

Sizzling Dance Scenes

http://www.reelz.com/trailer-clips/52139/top-10-sizzlin-dance-scenes/

Riverdance – Irish Dancing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HgGAzBDE454

American Indian Dancing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3s9z3IOpH1g

East Indian Dancing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsfi_DyUlj8  

Traditional Japanese Dancing

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eYPjTdM52T4

Trailers and Clips from Entries to Contest – Best Dance Scenes in Film

http://www.reelz.com/movie/149662/dirty-dancing/

Youthful Dance Number

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TwjgR7LZ1-0

American Bandstand – Celebration of the 4 decades from 1950’s to 1990’s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3CHr6imxPk

 Quotes about Dancing

http://www.quotegarden.com/dancing.html

More Quotes Re: Dancing

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/dance

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I started thinking about writing this blog with one question in mind, what is dating about in 2011? I did a little research and came up with the following insights, I hope you will agree or share your comments with me on the subject:

Good Dating Judgment Comes From Experience and from Getting the Inside Scoop –

  • There are no “steadfast rules” anymore
  • Women are still battling stereotypes
  • Too many men are confused about their masculinity
  • Financials are a serious consideration in potential mating opportunities
  • Women are still looking for security over love but many still do not realize it
  • Men whether they admit it or not are looking to marry-up to improve their status
  • Women with children are not out of the dating game as much as they think they are
  • Some men actually prefer to work their way into a family unit rather than start one up from scratch
  •  Men like women to carry their own weight but don’t know how to express their preference
  • Men need to feel as if they are needed
  • Women are less in touch with their femininity and more about trying to meet marketing dictates about how they should look and act
  • Men know the difference and shy away from women who have to try too hard to be “pretty”

If you want to be a successful dating who to Stay Clear of the Following:

  • A person who falls in love too fast
  • A name dropper – someone who tries to overly impress you
  • Men or women who mistreat pets or who have no use for them
  • People who hates children or cannot be bothered by their presence even for a short time
  • Those who lives in a completely sterile environments devoid of any plants, flowers or any other signs of natural life
  • People who cannot mention having a good time without connecting enjoyment to substances such as: alcohol, recreational drugs or enormous amounts of rich food
  • Candidates who never want to introduce you to family or close friends
  • People who act awkward when you suggest that they meet your family and friends and make all kinds of excuses to avoid potential encounters
  • Shifts the conversation when you mention long-term plans of any sort
  • Speaks only of issues and concerns that involve him or her personally
  • Expects too much from you and resists turn taking
  • Wants to share intimate details about life way too soon in your relationship
  • Keeps talking about Ex’s and how he or she was victimized by them

 Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.  ~Auguste Rodin

CNN’s Matchmaker’s Tips on Dating

http://articles.cnn.com/2008-03-03/living/o.dating.dos.donts_1_tough-love-first-date-matchmakers?_s=PM:LIVING

Thoughts on Serial Dating

http://articles.cnn.com/2008-03-03/living/o.dating.dos.donts_1_tough-love-first-date-matchmakers?_s=PM:LIVING

Some Profound Very Personal Female Insights on the Why’s and Wherefores of Dating

http://datingdc.wordpress.com/2011/02/19/why-do-i-write-this-blog/

Pointers on How To Enchant Women

http://www.100-dating-tips.com/

Cashing in on Corporate Dating Nuances – A Glimpse into a Premier Dating Service

http://datingdc.wordpress.com/2011/02/19/why-do-i-write-this-blog/  

Sexual Politics in Higher Education and Beyond – Dating Bans in the Corporate World

http://dankprofessor.wordpress.com/2007/09/11/dating-bans-in-the-corporate-world/

   Tips on Avoiding Dating Discomfort

  http://attractyoursoulmate.blogspot.com/2008/11/larina-kase-on-facing-dating-discomfort.html 

Intelligent Interactions – what to say and not to say on a date

http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xbzccc_secrets-to-successful-dating-conver_webcam

 

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New friends are like brightly wrapped gifts, by just looking at the package we can never be sure if what is inside is going to be

a real treasure.

It is difficult to make new friendships but necessary if we want to avoid social isolation, especially if we are extraverted personality types.  Inviting new people into our lives requires some serious social management if we want to circumvent connecting with the wrong types who are not in sync with our thoughts or our  ideas about life. 

No one wants to fail at their friendships because linking up with people takes time and energy and it is disheartening when our efforts are less than successful.  The important thing to remember is that our friends are merely on loan to us, and that from time-to-time people change, and so do we.

How to recognize when friendships are badly out of balance; here are some patterns to be on the lookout for:

a major disconnection between the two of you

mismatched geography making it difficult to get together

your plagued by boredom and distraction when you are in his or her company

there is resentment on the part of either one of you

when you discover disloyalty

or  insincerity

or there are changes in perceptions that you once shared

your friend demonstrates impatience with your schedule or with your life’s responsibilities

there is constant one-upmanship between the two of you

there are discrepancies in values

he or she utters anti-Semitic remarks

or racial smears

there are differences in your  ideals

something inside of you tells you that there is something missing in the relationship

he or she constantly exaggerates

you are subjected to constant gossiping

you notice other forms of unethical and unacceptable behaviors

When Not to End a Friendship

  • when the two of you engage in a heated debate or a highly spirited dialogue about something you both feel very passionate about but cannot agree on
  • when one of your friends is undergoing life changes such as: moving in with a lover, undergoing a divorce or planning a marriage, or in the process of giving birth to a new baby
  •  when there are sharp discrepancies in your social classes
  • when you discover personality traits that occasionally irritate you
  • when the criticism that is being directed at you is constructive and not intended to hurt or humiliate you

Possible Candidates for Friendships

  • neighbors
  • facilitators of seminars or workshops
  • coaches
  • wardrobe or interior designers
  • facialists
  • yoga or exercise instructors
  • concierge of local hotels or managers / owners of bed and breakfast establishments
  • people you volunteer with
  • friends of relatives or co-workers
  • members of your faith-based communities
  • community activists
  • dentist or dental hygienists
  • accountants
  • lawyers
  • boutique owners
  • people you meet while your golfing, playing tennis or swimming
  • Persons who attend the same sporting events
  • People you meet at book signings or museums or art showings
  • Individuals who you run into at local coffee shops or restaurants

Understanding our own feelings about the value of friendship is essential if we want to draw people to us that have the capacity to appreciate our inner nature and our special way of relating to others. We are all gifts to one another and at times, our presence in each other’s lives can be life changing, not to mention, in some instances, even life saving.   

Timing off? The Ebb and Flow of Friendships

 http://www.thefriendshipblog.com/blog/out-sync-friendships-matter-timing

When Friends walk Away

http://www.crystalinks.com/friendshipover.html

How to Make New Friends

http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friends

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Today, I took a moment to revisit an era when we were a highly spirited society and I succumbed to the opportunity to read a vivid account portrayed in a book by Ralph Blumenthal entitled: The Stork Club.  Blumenthal wrote about America’s most famous nightclub and about times long gone but memories not forgotten. His accounts from yesteryear reflect a period of passion, pleasantry, elegance and legendary glamour and chronicle not just a lost world but the escapades of a spirited Café society.

After reading the prizewinning New York Times journalist’s book, I feel very nostalgic and inspired to share just a few of the more enchanting aspects of this marvelous writer’s work. His research and insights bring back some wonderful and rarefied times that provided a backdrop for a very hedonistic society. 

Here is just a glimpse of the speakeasy days and the Stork Club Nights –

  • Romance, wooing and notorious courtships
  • Pressed powder, ruby-red lipstick and expensive perfumes
  • Irresistible thrills
  • Excesses of pleasure and passion
  • Riveting entertainment
  • Glittering mansions and wealth
  • Quality liquor
  • Show business glamour
  • Ethereal lives of movie stars
  • Colorful, world-famous nightspots attended by regulars
  • Tablehopping
  • Supercharged personalities
  • Sounds of from the Jazz age
  • Sparkling nightclub singers
  • Bandleaders and their big band sounds
  • Gangsters holding court with macho solidarity
  • Bootleggers
  • Secret cellars
  • Prohibition raiders
  • Famous ball players
  • Uniformed doormen
  • The privileged
  • Paternity suits
  • Extravagant decorated “Ladies” Rooms
  • Slumbering until after 3:00 p.m.
  • Fanciful gourmet faire
  • Black and white souvenir photographs
  • Large apartments in luxurious neighborhoods
  • Business and political connections
  • Mysterious whereabouts
  • Gin rummy
  • Aging socialites nervously eyeing themselves in restaurant mirrors
  • Radiant made-up faces of young women
  • Promotional geniuses
  • Dashing and sporty men
  • Aura of high-society folks
  • Postwar boom
  • Boxers out of the army
  • Racketeers
  • Theatrics
  • Glowing tributes to days gone by
  • Legendary appeal
  • Cryptic smiles
  • Bellhops in snappy uniforms
  • Lines of taxis and limousines
  • Inherited family fortunes
  • Family scandals
  • Safe returns from overseas missions

Additional Information on this Topic –

Video Stork Club

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6q0DhWALW1c&feature=related

Stork Club

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B81xdvNxeg4

NYC in the 40’s

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0vAbiNyf0qU&feature=fvwrel

Stork Club –

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stork_Club

Film Clip Stork Club

http://www.tcm.com/mediaroom/video/144785/Stork-Club-The-Original-Trailer-.html

Excerpt from Book Stork Club

http://www.thecityreview.com/stork.html

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It is through our blessings to one another, our toasts made special by our celebrations, our measurements in percentages and through the sanctity of our prayers, that we all come together, become unified, and our lives are given their special meaning.

Blessings

May we spring up like vegetables, have turnip-noses, radish cheeks, and carroty hair, and may our hearts never be hard, like those cabbages, nor may we be rotten to the core.

–          Daniel Webster

Sayings

It’s around the table that friends enjoy the warmth of being together.

–          Old Italian Saying

“May the saints protect you,

And sorrow neglect you,

And bad luck to the one,

That doesn’t respect you.”  

“Here’s to the health of your enemies’ enemies!”

 

“May you never make an enemy

when you can make a friend

unless you meet a fox among your chickens.”

“To warm words on a cold day.”

May we part with our troubles to advantage.”

Toasts Uttered in Movies –

Here’s to our friends and… the strength to put up with them.

From “Four Seasons” film –  directed by Alan Alda

Don’t cry because it’s over.”

“Smile Because it Happened!”

Prayers –

 Our Father…. Eternal light, You want all creation to live in harmony, Grace us with the instruments of good works and the desire to use them to build Your kingdom among us. We pray this through Christ, and in the Spirit. Amen.

–          Benedictine Prayer  

 More to Explore on this Topic:

 Charming YouTube Trailer from movie “Four Seasons”  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9iAOP_Tddo&feature=related

 Video Slide presentation – Inspirational Quotes  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5Jy-vi6nT1E 

 Overthinkingit.com – 40 inspirational lines in 2 minutes

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6wRkzCW5qI

 100 Movies, 100 quotes and 100 numbers

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RnVz7ECat0&feature=related

 George’s Toast Scene – Funny People Movie

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8CPTHEAfJc

 Quotes from Movies

http://www.reellifewisdom.com/node/545

 Roasting Johnny Carson and Bob Hope

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WL-EFFBHTg4

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Everyone has their own experience of the 4th of July. In today’s blog I have placed a collection of some of the images that come to mind.  Enjoy!!!

Vivid Images of July 4th

Suggestions on How to Tap into the Fun of Independence Day Weekend!

  • A Day at Colonial Williamsburg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZhjzb5NYZM&feature=related

  • American Revolution course outline Universal Class 101

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GFa1K4ASjac&feature=pyv&ad=3901113013&kw=american%20revolutionary%20war

  • Revolutionary War Reenactment

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VT42t87SvZ8&NR=1

  • What Should we be Celebrating on July the 4th

http://biggovernment.com/oftheeising/2010/07/03/the-fourth-of-july-what-we-should-be-celebrating/

  • Attending a Blue Grass County Fair

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5RugptvDFlw

  • A Look at some beautiful Amish Quilts

http://www.godlikeproductions.com/forum1/message1122571/pg1

  • A Glimpse at an Antique Airplane Toy (Clip From Television Series Antique Road show)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5j_bjrB9SQ&feature=list_related&playnext=1&list=SPBD00C0E3D8D68C10

  • Camping on 4th of July – check out the bear in the camp

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DwAz9bYu5is

  • We Have to Get Together This Summer

http://www.spike.com/video-clips/lvomip/ghost-world-we-have-to-get-together-this-summer

  • Remembering Summer Camp – teaching young people to overcome intolerance

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YE0mJ2fmZcE

  •  Summer Time is Pepsi time w/ Uncle Teddy

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/6682020/summer_time_is_pepsi_time_uncle_teddy/

  • Attending a Fiddle Contest

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZLe1RwO_3yI

  • Cub Scouts Parade

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dMQ38FPe_sY&feature=related

An Intriguing look at the Real George Washington

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fCrD15VKgr0&feature=related

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Secrets are burdens in a sense because they rest with us, and when they do, we become sentinels who often feel that we are charged with the responsibility to guard the gates of discretion, whether we care to, or not.  Not all secrets are meant to be shared, in fact, most are not.

Secrets if revealed to the wrong person however, can cause all kinds of havoc and can hurt and humiliate people who are generally unaware of the undisclosed information and the impact it could have on their lives. Some people go to their grave harboring secrets, for whatever the reason they know that what they know should be kept “close to their vest” and not shared.

Family members and criminals keep secrets because if others were aware of the truth it might cause them problems.  Secrets that come out of nowhere are the worst, because they shock and throw people’s lives off balance.  It can take years for an unsuspecting person who is the victim of someone else’s secret to recover from the jolt of being told what is “really” happening. 

When a person finally learns that they have been deceived they feel foolish because they have been the object of trickery for such a long time without even realizing it. Usually, what compounds the hurt is that the people that they trusted the most are involved.  They wonder how they could have closed their eyes and ears to what should have been so obvious until it was accidently discovered.    

The best way to avoid being burdened with a secret is to avoid being told one.  If someone attempts to take you into their confidence, decline to be involved.  Secrets are not cheap, they come with a high price tag, and it is a revolving charge, one than can cost more than most of us want to pay.

How to Get Anyone to Reveal a Secret

http://www.bitrebels.com/geek/how-to-keep-a-secret/

How to keep A Secret (Harvard psychologist)

http://blogs.howstuffworks.com/2009/07/10/how-to-keep-a-secret-according-to-a-harvard-psychologist/

How to Keep a Secret

http://www.2achieveyourgoals.com/how-to-keep-a-secret/

Strange Real-Life Secrets

http://www.katecoombs.com/strangesecrets.html

  How to Make a Secret Book Hollow

http://how2dostuff.blogspot.com/2006/02/how-to-make-secret-hollow-book.html

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