Secrets are burdens in a sense because they rest with us, and when they do, we become sentinels who often feel that we are charged with the responsibility to guard the gates of discretion, whether we care to, or not. Not all secrets are meant to be shared, in fact, most are not.
Secrets if revealed to the wrong person however, can cause all kinds of havoc and can hurt and humiliate people who are generally unaware of the undisclosed information and the impact it could have on their lives. Some people go to their grave harboring secrets, for whatever the reason they know that what they know should be kept “close to their vest” and not shared.
Family members and criminals keep secrets because if others were aware of the truth it might cause them problems. Secrets that come out of nowhere are the worst, because they shock and throw people’s lives off balance. It can take years for an unsuspecting person who is the victim of someone else’s secret to recover from the jolt of being told what is “really” happening.
When a person finally learns that they have been deceived they feel foolish because they have been the object of trickery for such a long time without even realizing it. Usually, what compounds the hurt is that the people that they trusted the most are involved. They wonder how they could have closed their eyes and ears to what should have been so obvious until it was accidently discovered.
The best way to avoid being burdened with a secret is to avoid being told one. If someone attempts to take you into their confidence, decline to be involved. Secrets are not cheap, they come with a high price tag, and it is a revolving charge, one than can cost more than most of us want to pay.
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