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Good Morning,

I love the holiday season. I like what it brings out in people. It seems to make them so nostalgic.  I hear the most inspirational stories from strangers I encounter during the Christmas season.  I also appreciate the beautifully orchestrated window themes in all the shop windows.  I even enjoy the holiday music played in my local grocery stores and in the elevators of the buildings in our nearby business district.

I do not like to think of the enormous demands placed on young parents by their children for presents that they really cannot afford.  I don’t appreciate driving around in endless circles until I come across a parking space when I have a ton of errands to run. I hate the thought of the bills coming due in the next couple of months after all the gift giving festivities have ended.  It is a chaotic time because my schedule becomes over taxed with all the extra engagements, and it seems as if there is never enough time to participate in all the merriment I would like to.

If I am not diligent, I find myself overdoing it, cutting corners on my self-care routines, exhausting my energy. Too much activity can easily cause a strain on my already overcompensated lifestyle.  My antidote is to reach for Dr. Rachel Harris’s book: “20 Minute Retreats.” There are more than 190 different retreats developed to soothe the trials of the season and any other mentally challenging situations that come up throughout the year.

Dr. Harris makes inner retreating so easy that we can place this vital inner-work in the same context as other daily rituals we perform such as brushing our teeth, reading the morning paper, or chatting on the phone. There is a selection of antidotes for tension or other concerns related to mental wellness that require no more of our time than a mere one-to-five minute departures from our holiday activities.

Here are Some Highlights I Excerpted from Her Exceptional Book that I Personally Found Extremely Valuable Amidst all the Business of the Season –

  • Ways in which we can experience the world of the spirit more in our daily lives
  • Embracing the magical qualities of life as they naturally unfold during the course of our day
  • Taking in all the comforts our homes provide when we return after a day of stressful working conditions
  • How to avoid becoming mired in the quicksand of negative thinking
  • How to practice mindful attention
  • Why it is so important to pause before uttering words of regret and some techniques to ensure that we can do so in the heat of the moment
  • Ways that we can recognize the magnificence of our personal journey as we travel down our own individual and very sacred path
  • How to bring about tranquility in what would otherwise be a very chaotic atmosphere
  • How to avoid feeling disconnected
  • Instructions for a series of twenty-minute retreats – step-by-step so they can be clearly interpreted and practiced
  • There are retreats for each aspect of our lives that focus on areas such as; our faith, forgiveness, gratitude, healing, intuition, joy, love, patience, peace and relaxation, self-acceptance and self-care

Dr. Harris makes the act of inner retreating so simple and easy to integrate into our hectic worlds.  She presents us with a way in which we can place them in the same context as other common rituals we perform without a second thought. The best way I can convey this is to reiterate the words I read from the text that compare her retreats to other simplistic activities such as the brushing of our teeth, reading the newspaper, or chatting on the phone. There is even a selection of stress-free antidotes that require no more of our time than one-to-five minutes.

Harris’s book is hailed by the most impressive list of supporters an author on this subject could hope for – including, but not limited to:  Dr. Phillip Goldberg coauthor of: Making Peace with Your Past, Daniel Gottenlieb, Ph.D., columnist for the Philadelphia Inquirer, Jennifer Louden, author of the Women’s Retreat Book and Jack Canfield, coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul.

A Glimpse into Dr. Rachel Harris’s Book – “20 Minute Retreats” some excerpts




Invitation to a Daily Mini-Retreat


Spiritual Retreats – Part 2


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The social ramifications are many for those returning to their community after catastrophic episodes in their lives which have temporarily or permanently altered their appearance. Reentry requires special measures for their readjustment.

What follows is a list of invaluable intervention aids for optimum rehabilitation – Fostering and Supporting those in need of strategies that will help them to lead independent lives and will facilitate their greater adaptation back into society.

  • Social rehabilitation
  • Counseling for anticipated social reentry
  • Intensive therapy
  • Rehabilitation research
  • Physical therapy
  • Psychiatric rehabilitation
  • Countermeasures for learned helplessness
  • Pain control
  • Assistance to address and put an end to substance abuse
  • Appearance counseling for physical consequences of disease, wounds or injuries
  • Prosthetic restoration
  • Re-image identification
  • Gait training
  • Positive psychology
  • Life coaching
  • Antidotes to attitudinal problems
  • Relief for depression
  • Spiritual support
  • Sexual counseling
  • Support for other health problems
  • Nutritional considerations and requirements
  • Vocational rehabilitation
  • Support for family and marital readjustment

References and Resources

Principles of Psycho-Oncology


Operation Positive Transformation


Look Good…Feel Better


Disfigured Help Us Face Up to Disfigurement


Facial Disfigurement


Website for any and all issues related to disfigurement


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Good Morning and Happy Sunday,

“Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it. “


Courtesy of Google Images

Confucius (551-479 BC) a prominent theorist and social philosopher, considered a molder of Chinese civilization, believed that good words and good deeds of humanism (man’s ability to achieve perfectionism) and unity (a universal connectedness – a dynamic unity that supports a reality that insists that matter and motion are derived from one substance) should be first and foremost in the nature and principle of Chinese philosophy.

The three basic concepts that formed the supportive structure of humanism according to Confucius:

  • Good Society – proper conduct and righteousness as opposed to profit
  • Good Government – ruling by virtue and moral example
  • Harmonious Human Relations – societal fusion

Confucius’s Reflections of a Morally Superior Man

In his estimation, nobility was not a matter of being born into a royal bloodline but one of character:

What the superior man seeks is in himself; what the small man seeks is in others.


The Fundamental Practices He Advocated Were:

  • “The Mean” – that which is central and balanced
  • “The Way” TAO (moral law)
  • “Heaven” – spiritual destiny (Buddhism – cause and effect)
  • “Jen “ – the highest virtue (compassion)

Confucian Ethical Teachings include the Following Values – Excerpted from http://www.religioustolerance.org/confuciu2.htm

Li: includes ritualistic observance, appropriate social behaviors (respect and decency)
Hsiao: love within the family: love of parents for their children and of children for their parents
Yi: righteousness – (responding to injustice)
Xin: honesty and trustworthiness (constancy and dependability of one’s nature)
Jen: benevolence (goodwill to others); the highest Confucian virtue
Chung: loyalty to the state, etc. (to a general consensus – force of law maintaining a majority of self-ruling governance)

Further Information can be accessed through the links provided below:


Intro to Video – Searching for Confucius


Video Trailer Depicting Life and Times of Confucius


French video of Confucius Sayings


Chinese Proverbs


Confucius Words Conveyed


A Tour through A Monumental Temple – A Fitting Tribute to Confucius – A visitors Guide to this magnificent place in Beijing, China


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Good Day Everyone,

New Age and Alternative medicine healers are all about recognizing the body’s higher energies, controlling flow and proper balancing of life force.  Their intention is to assist others with their development by inspiring their own awareness, which ultimately, leads to a healthier life style and overall personal transformation.    Healing touch providers perceive the body in five ways:

  • As a spiritual body
  • Mental body
  • Emotional body
  • Etheric  body
  • Physical body

Healing techniques which are called energy healing include but are not limited to: Healing Touch, Reiki, Polarity Therapy, Bioenergy, Sakara, to name just a few.  The common denominator of all these healing applications is that the healing provider works with one or more of the client’s own energy fields or patterns to reinstate proper equilibrium and concurrence on many levels to promote physical healing.

To be a healing touch healer one has to understand the inner nature of their own actuality – who and what they are.  They must know with absolute certainty, that they have the healing instinct even when they are unsure what exactly they are called to do with it or, before they are essentially trained in how to use it.  This, awareness is essential for their further development as a novice energy-based healer so as they have a platform with which they can build on their natural intuitive abilities to become a well-qualified provider of healing touch applications.  A person who has decided to travel a healing path has to have a certain sense about who they are before they can be effective in the healing self-care and lives of others.

The way a professional with a healing spirit relates to the body is through sensing its energy fields.  To perpetuate healing he/she must modulate and manipulate one or more of the different energy bodies.  Some providers not only sense the subtle energy of the body but they can also see the overall shape of the person’s aura as well as any negative disturbances in these energy patterns (life forces) that might be the cause of a blockage – http://www.google.com/images?um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&tbs=isch:1&q=chakra&revid=15631507

There are more than a few techniques that fall under the heading of energy-based healing. A good deal of the time the person performing the techniques is being guided by spiritual inclination and not by a specific set of hand movements although; the training is highly structured and, not random in its practices and principles.

Healing touch (HT) energy-based treatments cover 30 integrated techniques practiced by a whole host of caregivers from: holistic physicians, nurses, multi-disciplined health care professionals and even lay persons who are trained in this healing practice.  The interventions include care for:

  • Mental well-being
  • Debilitating stress and various levels of nervous tension
  • Illness prevention
  • Management of sorrowfulness
  • The control of throbbing, stabbing or, chronic pain
  • Neck and back discomfort
  • Fear and apprehension
  • Wound care
  • Fracture healing

Therapeutic administrations are performed by a light touch to the body or by re-patterning the energy field a few inches above the body.  This care can be offered anywhere and is not restricted to a healing table but can also be given to persons sitting in a chair or to individuals who are bedridden.  What is most significant is that for the treatments to be complete the emotional and mental patterns of the person being cared for have to be addressed by the person as well. In other words, how a person feels and thinks about themselves and others is a strong determinant as to the efficacy of the treatment and its outcome.

Healing touch came into its own with the efforts of Janet Mentgen, RN, BSN, who was invited by her peers to develop the program, Batie, D. Howard, “Awakening the Healer Within” (2000) Llewellyn Publications.  In 1989 Mentgen was honored as holistic nurse of the year by the Holistic Nurses Association. Healing Touch was offered as a pilot program at the University of Tennessee and in Gainesville, Florida. In 1990 it became a certificate program of the American Holistic Nurses Association (AHNA) – primarily for nurses. The techniques of Healing Touch are continued to be supported and became endorsed by the American Holistic Medical Association mostly for holistically oriented medical doctors.   The educational resources were available from the AHNA to develop Mentgen’s vision http://healing.about.com/od/famoushealers/p/mentgen.htm with her material into sequenced, multilevel workshops and comprehensive training sessions.

The widespread worldwide interest in HT resulted in certification in other countries.  A separate credentialing authority was required, and Healing Touch International, Inc. was formed in 1996 for quality uniformity standards.  http://www.biofieldbalancing.com/healing-touch.html

Take Care,


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Good Morning Everyone,

Spiritual receptivity is all about working with a higher guidance something more than just our own perspective.  It is about knowing who we really are on a spiritual level. Accepting the reality that there are no ordinary experiences and that each day presents us with an opportunity to better ourselves and to raise our consciousness and that by nurturing our awareness we tap into the miraculous.   

It involves a deeper understanding, a universal balance to keep ourselves and the world around us in check, as well as all the people and all the situations we are connected to.   It is our reliance on our faith and on all things of a spiritual nature beyond the realm of the visible.  Spiritual receptivity inspires us to make the right choices for the all the right reasons because we are relying on the premise that things will naturally fall into place. When we are spiritually receptive we no longer need to be in charge of everything and everyone.  We can, instead, relinquish control by channeling our thoughts differently – by looking at life and the events that occur daily as having a specific and unique meaning.  Consequently, we resist the temptation to become distracted by the things that are not for our highest good and we get into the flow by centering ourselves and opening our eyes to the calm, the safe and the peaceful. Thereby, creating a more stabilized dimension in our lives.  Spiritual receptivity captures what matters most. It enables us to see what is around us from unexpected angles increasing our ability to receive information from a higher spiritual plane.   

We become more reverent and more appreciative, we embody spiritual receptivity and our reservations about our existence begin to slowly diminish.  We recognize the illusion of separateness and embrace unification as a replacement for detachment and ambivalence.   Human kinship takes on a greater importance and the seeds of our relationships flower and fulfill their promise of developing into something beautiful and long-lasting.

 Resources for Some Relevant Reading on the Topic –

A Look into the Human Thirst for the Divine


Research Regarding the Divine Guidance Project and an Opportunity to Participate in Counseling


Video for Becoming a Channel for Higher Receptivity


Vibrancy and Sympathetic Harmony – The Rise to the Fourth Density


Guidance for Self-Exploration – Finding Your Soul’s Purpose through identifying Your Core Value


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Hello Everyone,

It is difficult to take a public stand and to try to evoke change let alone get others on board with the idea. Not everyone is right for the role of social campaigner.  The beauty industry is not a place where you would expect to see such practices but there are many leaders that have emerged from the aesthetic field, a profession that primarily focuses on the superficial aspects of human services.  Yet, there are in this industry, professionals who question why things are what they are and have a broader vision as to what they could be. 

For some professionals in our field, it does not take much to get on the bandwagon –an infuriating circumstance, deeply experienced, on a personal level or a situation that cannot be resolved by traditional means can begin the journey for some of us.  Wanting to see another bypass a frustrating impasse is usually how one gets started, little knowing what it would entail to make a turnabout, the situation draws them to action. Their efforts result in changes; differences that they never could have foreseen at the onset of their involvement.

Aesthetic activists are really just common community citizens that are thinking about how things can be re-worked and made better.  Most of the time, they try to involve others, but when no one else steps forward they take up the charge and get things going on their own. Often the efforts of aesthetic providers end up promoting changes that go unnoticed because they bring forth ideas that others must run with, yet, their intentions still result in some of the changes they originally envisioned. 

In aesthetics, activists are the ones among us, who question harmful ingredients in cosmetic formulations, speak out for better safety measures to prevent recklessness in our practices and ensure that we do not do anything that will harm the public. They recognize the need for educational reform in our beauty colleges and work with legislators to promote professional change.

It is the aestheticians that promote social change who share and execute new and innovative ideas that set the stage for the agendas at our conferences and retreats. When there is a need, they form associations where once there were none, and encourage their members to establish local skin care chapters to better manage growth and development of the field on a local level. They expand the horizons of the industry by crossing boarders and recruiting educators from other countries and cultures and make inroads for us to present our expertise to our aesthetic counterparts in foreign lands.

 Aestheticians who promote social change are not always riding on the coattails of the profession when they begin grassroots movements.  Some quietly make the calls and write the letters behind the scenes to our legislators – proving the old adage that one person can make a significant difference if there is a window of opportunity for change and that person is willing to not only open it, but energize others, get them concerned and to participate in the process.  

Some aesthetic providers start nonprofits and fully engage themselves in leading fundraising drives for numerous worthy causes including helping the needs of person’s with cancer and easing the way for victims of accidents to return comfortably to their communities after they have had their physical appearance altered. They start holistic centers, and volunteer to work with members of their congregations to feed the homeless and address the aesthetic needs of abused women.  They have established nonprofits for children with severe burn injuries sending them to summer camp.  Aestheticians who promote social change can be found pretty much wherever people’s lives are in turmoil and where people suffer from the most disturbing social prejudices and acts of violence one can possibly imagine.

Areas of Volunteerism

Conservation and environment

Child abuse prevention and care

Women’s causes

Culture Activities and the Arts

Facilities and services for the protection of animals

Facilities and services for rehabilitation

Services for the Elderly

Medicine and health

Clinics and university hospitals

Faith based organizations

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21 Things Personal Self-Managers Do-

  1. We make things happen in our world
  2. We reward ourselves for diligence
  3. We empower ourselves with incentives that keep us focused on our objectives
  4. We master the art of communication so we can better relate to the people in our lives and get our message across
  5. We organize our affairs so that we do not waste our time with inefficiency
  6. We juggle our priorities but are always aware of what it is that we truly want
  7. We determine our strengths and recognize our limitations
  8. We delegate tasks that could better be performed by others and put the power in their hands so that they can do whatever it is we want accomplished
  9.  We tailor our approaches to chores that must be approached in such a way that they create the maximum of interest for us
  10. We dream up countless ideas to enjoy our leisure time to its fullest
  11. We search for ways to constantly update our public presentation
  12. We spend a sufficient amount of effort gathering information on self-improvement strategies
  13. We carefully review the data we find to determine if it suits us
  14. We select approaches that appeal to us the most and we act accordingly   
  15. We maintain a sense of fair play with others
  16. We use the Internet as a resource of reference and enjoy the time we spend on it – making certain that it is not excessive
  17. We arrange to have people in our lives that will permit us to work through ideas and approaches to solving problems that we otherwise might not be able to work out alone
  18. We transfer our knowledge to those who need it but are careful not to let ourselves feel as if we have been taken advantage of
  19. We give ourselves permission to give voice to our thoughts but we are conscious of the feelings of others
  20. We lend a helping hand when we can to those who need it
  21. We are careful to monitor our weight and to do some form of exercise daily  

What follows is Mary Ellen Copeland’s “RAP” (Rap Action Plan) for mental health recovery). Her holistic approach to alleviate anxiety / panic attacks and to encourage emotional wellness is very effective and well-respected worldwide. It is based on the self-advocacy research she did initially to help herself and on the establishment of RAP groups. 

Below are Ms. Copeland’s Five Rap Key Concepts which you can draw from as the basis of a Pre-and Post Action Plan to Boost Your Mood and Support Mental Self-Care. She offers sound suggestions to assist you to discover what it is that you need to stay well.  If you are going through a strenuous time, you are not expected to find instant answers to your problems but these are the 5 major areas that if her research concluded that if we were to concentrate on them more we can make a substantial difference in our own lives.

  • Hope
  • Personal responsibility
  • Education
  • Self-advocacy
  • Support

See Mary Ellen Copeland’s Video– It will provide you with living proof that under the right circumstances people who decide to become proactive in their own recovery efforts, can, and do get well.

Copyright©2010 All right reserved to Victoria L. Rayner


Self-Help Resources to Check Out –

Institute of Healthcare Improvement


Listing of Holistic Institutes and Seminars


BraveHeart Women’s Network – Free Membership – Inspiration in Action


HelpGuide.org – Laughter is the Best Medicine


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