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Hello There,

Working is such a vital part of our lives.  Our jobs provide us with a sense of importance, artistic expression and purpose.  They allow us to use our intellect and our innate talents to assist and connect with others in variety of wonderful ways.  Our profession brings us in contact with people whom we might not otherwise ever have an opportunity to interface with. Individuals, who, if we will permit them to do so, will teach us valuable lessons about camaraderie and, what it means to be part of a team of accomplished professionals.  

Our work also offers us extraordinary opportunities for learning through numerous social and active hands-on experiences.  Every, single day, whether, we realize it or not, we are exposed to something brand new. Just think of it, if we entertain the notion of using work for more than just a way to pay our expenses, and, in its place allow it to be a venue of intense interest, it can enrich us in priceless ways.  All we have to do is just be extra attentive to what we see, hear, and do.  

Some of us are extremely fortunate, when we first start out in the field, we are presented with internships designed to acquaint us with all the subtle nuances of the work and that can give us a platform with which to professionally develop ourselves.  Internships are one of the best ways for us to find our sense of direction, identify our special talents and recognize our unique aptitudes.  For those of us who did not have that advantage, it is hard to imagine, how fantastic it must be to come right out of school and be taken under someone’s wing and mentored. Working alongside some of the most progressive professionals in the beauty business, I am certain would be nothing short of enthralling.  We can only dream of what it would be like, on a day-to-day basis, to have someone who would be attuned with our struggles as a newbie in the industry.  A professional who would help us master all the “never tried techniques” and, all-the-while, cheer us on so we could slowly build up our confidence. What a beneficial and rewarding experience that would be. We would surely discover, from the onset, to some of our amazement, that our contribution was truly going to be something really significant to the field.  

Some of the obvious rewards internship can offer us:

  • We can learn more.
  • Use creativity and problem solving skills
  • Apply theories learned to real life treatment situations.
  • Become more savvy about functions
  • Test our talents in the workplace.
  • Investigate different work cultures and broaden our choices.
  • Explore other career-related skills we might not have been aware of.
  • Discover transferable skills that would be applicable.
  • Strengthen social skills.
  • Develop quick thinking rationale.
  • Find out what it’s like to work in a spa, a salon or any number of clinical environments.
  • Enhance and strengthen our CV’s.
  • Make future contacts to acquire employment.
  • Establish a bridge between getting out of school and beginning work.
  • Stimulate new interests (additional academic courses) by being exposed to new procedures.
  • Gain an increased awareness of our personal qualities and values as they apply.

 Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner

For More Information on the Topic –

Older Workers Taking on Internships

http://jobs.aol.com/articles/2010/06/26/older-workers-internships/

Quick Tips on How to Find an Internship

http://jobsearch.about.com/od/internshipssummerjobs/a/findinternship.htm

Interning in the Fashion Industry

http://www.inside-beat.com/fashion/fashion-interning-101-1.2124257

Fun Video

 How to Get an Internship

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=12eAN_2YEns

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Hello ,

There is nothing worse than being made a fool of.  People with shallow emotions come to us with very expensive price tags. We pay a lot for the privilege of being deceived by someone we took into our trust and later found ourselves taken advantage of. The kind of person I am referring to is generally a whole heck of a lot of fun to be with and is frequently overly agreeable.  At first they come across as very charismatic with extremely delightful personalities. The kind of person you want to spend a good deal of your time around – at least in the beginning.  

However, it does not take too long before we begin to realize signs that we are perhaps, being seriously deceived. The details of their stories just do not add up and we start to question them.  Suddenly, we find we are in doubt about much of what they share with us because these things turn out to not be the truth. When this happens, we make excuses for these discrepancies until we no longer can avoid them. At this point, we blame ourselves because we think we should have known better.  

Having gone through this scenario a time or two in my lifetime, I can say that these encounters are more typical than they are rare. For people with a heart of gold, who form relationships quickly, it’s even worse since it happens all too often.  The good news is, however, that at the end of the day, we come away from such an individual with a truly valuable lesson worth the earning because we start to recognize certain characteristics in such persons, early on. Thanks to the profitable experience of being a victim in such instances, we are ultra sensitive to the traits of these manipulative personality types and when we encounter them can proceed with caution.  What follows are red flags. It is a way to detect and to shield yourself when someone you meet is more likely to be someone with manipulative tendencies that you need to be cautious about.

The person you are dealing with has:

  • The type of appeal that is too-good-too-be true
  • thinks they are the center of the universe
  • has no feelings for anyone or anything that does not pertain to them
  • appears to have a low tolerance or understanding for the concerns of others
  • a history of being unreliable
  • always makes rationalizations for their errors and tends to blame others for their misfortunes  
  • exhibits an incapacity to experience guilt or to gain any value from the negative experiences they help to create
  • a sense of entitlement
  • an excessive need for reassurance
  • the kind of personality that is extremely unappreciative
  • a false self-image
  • melancholy moods
  • the type of personality that wastes your time and energy

 What you can do to cope with a Manipulative Person (s):

There are no uncomplicated antidotes but the following suggestions are worthy of some consideration:

  • Accept their faults and go along
  • Gain clarity about what it is you can and cannot tolerate in your dealings with this person
  • Let the person know how you feel by discussing your feelings
  • Ask for their cooperation to make changes in your relationship
  • With unwavering resolve, try to use patience to make it work despite a repeat of their manipulative behaviors
  • Ponder your efforts and weigh out for yourself the benefits and the drawbacks associated with your affiliation with this person(s)
  • Abandon the relationship altogether

Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner

Resources

Videos

Tactics of Manipulative People

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GVb1xKGibBA

FOUR TYPES OF MANIPULATORS

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qJaDC5sPOm8&feature=related

Characteristics Of Manipulative People

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9UzqmvEngPo&feature=related

Articles

 Emotional Vampires

 http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/emotional-vampires-manipulative-people-w-personality-disorders

 Business Woman’s Business School & Social Club

 http://businessfinishingschool.blogspot.com/2005/08/workplace-dangers-manipulative-people.html

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Hello Everyone,

The emergence of aesthetics as a healing mechanism makes a unique contribution to the field of beauty and health care.  It imparts therapeutic qualities that aesthetic treatments alone cannot offer.  It plays a supportive role to a wide spectrum of analogous approaches and is seldom applied as a single application of care.  Although universal beauty treatments arise from similarities of both approaches, aesthetic healing provides a broader array of choices for the more clinically inclined treatment provider expanding interest in what might otherwise be considered ordinary usage of mechanical modalities.  

It has only been recently that a fairly definitive description of aesthetic healing has been developed from all the various holistic applications it offers, yet, none-the-less, it is still difficult to generalize the work as can be accomplished with other aesthetic approaches because it shares duality with artistic measures.  What could be responsible for making it more complex and difficult to predict the effect are the relative intensities in which it is modified depending on its treatment adaptation, as a selective action or as part of an entire composition of care.  

It should be pointed out that each provider gives the nature of the distribution of aesthetic healing a different form of expression. This causes a shift from one definition to another depending on the surprising result the particular administrator of aesthetic care achieves. He or she either limits its application or carries it through to its extremes.  Two perspectives (the holistic and the artistic) dominate its field of study and practice– with the overall theme of aesthetic rehabilitation as the cohesive factor that bridges the two.  Although, these two applications take different paths depending on what the treatment occasion demands, they both have an underlying foundation that supports aesthetic healing care.  It is necessary, therefore, to explore these two concepts, with equal attention paid to the artistic and the holistic, as well as their combined effects, in order to understand the significance of each singularly.  The requirement for aesthetic healing providers to have this twofold diffusion of knowledge and the role each can play (more strongly perhaps, with one, but not at the complete neglect or interference of the other), will later, be explained in treatment by the specific situations to be encountered.  For example: the use of a cosmetic camouflage solution (an oil-based covering agent) for acne scarring when the problematic skin condition still exists and is highly active.  In such an instance, a holistic antidote would be more appropriately applied and would play a larger role in therapeutic treatment, rather than, the traditional artistic approach used to completely obliterate the marks left behind from the lasting effects on the skin brought about by the disease.

Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner

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Good Morning,  

Spiritual strength is within each and every one of us.  It is the reservoir of resilience that we can count on when things are not going well in our lives and we need to have faith in a higher power.  It is a place where we can find peace either through prayer or through quite meditation. It is a way to cope with anguish and with change.   

Spiritual strength is a force that rises up from deep within us to aid us in confronting our greatest fears about the unknown. It offers us a declaration of release. It reminds us that we are not bound to negative circumstances nor are we victims of the world we live in.  We can rely on our spiritual strength to guide us through the most difficult of all conditions providing us with an unwavering assurance that we will not only survive what seems unendurable, but will thrive amidst the threat of any uncertainty.    

Spiritual strength attacks our suffering by inviting into our lives the heavenly possibility of hope. It promises us resolution when it appears there is none and comforts us until it arrives. 

When we are ready to take control of our problems we call upon our spiritual strength to help us do so. It gives us the desire and the motivation to ask for help in healing our situation and ourselves.  If we are ill it gives us the courage to face whatever it is that we must and the patience to hold out for our recovery or prepare for the inevitable.   

Spiritual strength is nurturing. It is what keeps us in tune with the harmonic flow of energy and love, making us feel as if we are a part of everyone and everything around us. When we are in touch with our spiritual strength we are never weak, alone in our struggles or isolated from our divine source. 

Spiritual Strength Re-Enforcers – 

  • Believe in the divine
  • Reinforce your beliefs regularly not just when unpleasant things develop in your world unexpectedly
  • Stay spiritually elevated in a state of divine conciousness by being aware and open to spiritual synchronicity as it manifests in your life
  • Color your world with acts of spiritual focus by lending your gift to others that can benefit from your talents and capabilities
  • Fast forward the answer to your prayers – express your gratitude for the unseen and not yet actualized result of your requests
  • Keep close track of your spiritual successes by recording divine interventions in a spiritual journal
  • No matter what time of day or night, your energy level or lack of it – give thanks to your divine source of abundance 

Copyright©2010 All right reserved – Victoria L. Rayner 

How Spiritual Strength Can Help Fight Addictions such as Smoking 

http://health.discovery.com/centers/addiction/smoking/tips/spiritual.html 

 Hope You Know We Had a Hard Time  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wz41YxNiHEg 

Finding Your Spiritual Strength in the Midst of Emotional Turmoil  

http://ezinearticles.com/?Finding-Your-Spiritual-Strength-in-the-Midst-of-Your-Emotional-Turmoil&id=49065 

 Spiritual Woman’s Resources  

http://www.angelfire.com/tn/moonlodge/ 

Meryl Streep, Barnard Commencement Speaker 2010, Columbia University 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-a8QXUAe2g&NR=1 

Cultivating Spiritual Strength  

http://meditation.org.au/class41.asp

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Good Morning,

One of the worst time traps people get caught up in is trying to go back and make up for lost time.  We tend to spend too much of our effort on routine activities – things that we do not like to do.  Nowadays, we all feel so pressured for time. With all that is happening in our lives it is easy to lose track and squander it. 

With enough strategies in place we can control where our time goes and feel as if we can win back at least some time lost.  We can begin by deciding what is most important to us and what it takes to make our priorities an immediate consideration worth acting on right away. 

 As we go about the business of our lives we must hold ourselves accountable for our choices about time.   By gaining better clarity and establishing in our minds  as to what we think of as the most meaningful things in our lives and by dividing our day-to-day existence into four-part phases,  we can plan for a richer experience of our mornings, afternoons, evenings and our nights.  We can begin to once again recapture the joy of living in the moment with time to spare for what “really matters” to us. What follows are 20 ways to make better use of and to honor the time each of us is allotted but by no means guaranteed in life.

 We can Better Control Where Our Time Goes if we… 

  1. Have knowledgeably about time
  2. Decide what is important to us and what is truly not
  3. Learn what it takes to get control of time and stop wasting it
  4. Make realistic choices about what we will do and actually can do with time
  5. Establish our 1st, 2nd, 3rd priorities
  6. Support strategies and follow through
  7. Do not let minutes slip by because they turn into hours, days, weeks and months as well as; years – never to be recaptured again
  8. Become more efficient in our use of time by studying how we can better manage it
  9. Focus on ways to be effective in general by never losing sight of our intention and our objective focus
  10. Do less and expect less
  11. Control the living and working spaces in our lives by organizing them
  12. Tap into the flow of time rather than go against the grain
  13. Manage piles of stuff a bit at a time until they disappear and our anxiety over our apprehension associated with them does too
  14. Reduce what we retain – live with just what we consider essentials – the things we appreciate the most
  15. Stop playing the catch up game by deciding to let certain things go
  16. Abandon the rat race occasionally to gain a better perspective of where we stand with time
  17.  Use a timer and limit the scope of a task by 15 minute increments to prevent the possibility of becoming overwhelmed and procrastinating
  18. Look for new ideas and ways to manage time such as:  Internet articles, books, audio’s and by viewing DVD’s with innovative ideas on the subject
  19. Practice gratitude for the time we do have by honoring the seconds, minutes, hours, days, weeks, months as they pass and living them to the fullest as possible
  20. Recognizing that moments such as this, and the way we choose to spend them, should be so precious, because the time we used is literally irreplaceable

More Info on Subject

 Making Me Time for Mom

 http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/13796/making_me_time_for_mom.html?cat=25

 Procrastination – Reasons and Resolution

http://sas.calpoly.edu/asc/ssl/procrastination.html  

Randy Pausch Best Time Management Video Ever – 1 hr. 26 min, worth every second of listening

 http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-5784740380335567758#

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Hello,

There are many negative problems that are the result of our compromised economy and now the level of our good health is yet, another.  Losing a job can not only cause us to feel emotionally depressed but can also cause us to become ill. According to a study by a sociologist at the State University of New York, 80% of people who lost their livelihood developed a disease within 18 months after being laid off.  Illnesses such as arthritis, high blood pressure and cardiovascular disease are the most commonly reported health problems but there are others.  The study pointed out that blue-collar workers were impacted the greatest. White collar workers suffered less from poor physiological reactions.   Stress was more of a consideration because people from a lower socio-economic status had less of a financial cushion that their more monetarily solvent counterparts. 

The influence of unemployment on the participant’s health was not directly related to their age but more to a person’s individual approach to being out of work and worry over money.  Constant anxiety and panic over the uncertainty of not having a way to support oneself is a definitive recipe for breaking down one’s health.  If one is not careful, going over and over the details that resulted in the termination of a job starts to set up a dynamic that literally begins to erode the body by compromising the strength of the immune system.  Living hand to mouth with the consistent tension over having to maintain on a tight budget entangles a person. It is extremely disconcerting to the average individual who is accustomed to being a wage earner and going to work every day.  If one is not careful of this problem, he or she will find himself or herself wasting away physically. Other problems people experience are irritable bowel syndrome (IBS) and colon polyps. 

The most important thing in a person’s life should be their health.  Regardless of one’s employment status one must keep up with it.  Looking carefully at the benefits of dietary and nutritional aids and integrating them into their food plan is a good approach to safeguarding one’s health. Strategies that enhance wellness and stamina are of the utmost importance when a person is going through a crisis situation such as being jobless.  Exercise is also vital. Full body circuit core training allows a person to build and tone their muscles and to burn body fat as well as target all the key areas of the body.

More References

Top Health Concerns for Persons Out of Work

http://psychology.suite101.com/article.cfm/are-there-disadvantages-to-being-unemployed-for-applicants

Most Prevalent Health Concerns for Women

http://women.webmd.com/guide/5-top-female-health-concern

Alternative Remedies – Chinese Herbs and Health Concerns

http://www.healthconcerns.com/

Med Hero

http://www.youtube.com/JNJhealth

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Hello,

A person who has the entrepreneurial spirit is someone who has the fortitude to begin an enterprise and who:

  • is not afraid to participate in a commercial enterprise on their own or to partner with a like-minded soul
  • is ultra-sensitive to consumer spending patterns and can interpret what services and products will sell well in advance
  • is someone who is always aware of potential money generating opportunities that others do not as readily see
  • is someone who is always on the lookout for new and exciting ways of doing business
  • is a person who is grateful for the privilege of being able to generate their own livelihood in this world
  • is someone who has lots of stamina and is willing to put in ridiculous hours of effort from sunup to sundown
  • is an individual who is flexible and easy-going and at the same time can stand up for what they believe if the situation calls for them to hold their ground
  • is a person who is aware of their luck and has an intuitive sense about when it is running out
  • is a person who does not rely merely on the goodness of others but uses his or her gifts to the fullest
  • is someone who is not hesitant to take a gamble if a situation they are in demands for them to do so
  • is a person who can live with the uncertainty of not knowing where their next dollar is coming from
  • is someone who enjoys challenging themselves and meeting obstacles head-on
  • is a person that enjoys promoting his or her ideas
  • is someone who thinks he or she can do it better and wants to prove it
  • is a person who is constantly thinking of innovative approaches
  • is a troubleshooter
  • is a pathfinder
  • is someone who paves the way for others
  • is the first to arrive in the morning and the last to leave at night
  • is someone who never quits and refuses to let go
  • is a person who comes up with numerous ways to make money
  • is someone who loves to get together with other business leaders and brainstorm
  • is a person who knows how to manifest things
  • is someone who believes in himself or herself
  • is a person who learns from his or her mistakes
  • is a one who sees themselves as a person whose vision is valuable to others
  • is someone who wants to make a difference in the lives of other people and knows that his or her business is the perfect way to do so
  • is a person who has excellent social skills and is adept at using them expertly
  • is an individual who is one-of-a-kind and knows it
  • is someone who is not fearful to go it alone
  • is a person who is willing to work a strategy out and not abandon it before it has a chance to be road-tested
  • is a person who finds their work extremely rewarding
  • is someone who is willing to go the distance even though he or she may not have all the answers from the beginning
  • is someone who looks inward when in doubt for solutions before consulting others for their opinions
  • is someone who is unique and creative
  • is a person who is very self-disciplined
  • is not someone who is easily defeated or distracted by the criticisms of others
  • is a person who rarely takes their eyes or their mind off their objectives
  • is someone who always tries to perform every task at their best

More on the Subject of the Entrepreneurial Spirit:

The Entrepreneurial Mindset

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Entrepreneurial_mindset

The Entrepreneurial Spirit

http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Entrepreneurial-Spirit&id=86369

How to Define the Entrepreneurial Spirit

http://ezinearticles.com/?How-To-Define-Entrepreneurial-Spirit&id=738736

Test for the Entrepreneurial Spirit  

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UvbGn5YC4-g

Richest Man in the World

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ayfu0HOpNyU&NR=1

Entrepreneur Who is Responsible for Transforming India

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N1DJbOIwt6Q&feature=related

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