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Practicing the Art of Preponderance

The problem with being perplexed is that one has to be patient when pondering

 Out of the paleness of one’s potentiality, the vibrancy of precision can be produced if one is purposeful

Precious as the rarest of all pearls is the wisdom of one’s positive projections of self

Precocious by nature but with a personality that has grown protective after years of providing food for prejudice, pilfering away at one’s pride

Promising paradigm shifts but stuck in patterns of preponderance

more persistent than not

Parlaying a prominent protagonist philosophy only providing more puzzlement to the pot

Preposterous proclamations lend nothing to the precarious situation

Feelings of persecution result in pessimism for which there is no preparing

Pleasure can only be permitted if the power of prayer presides

Principles prevail over problems offering professional progressiveness if there is no procrastination

Planning and preparedness pave the way for future profit and unlimited possibilities

For each of us has the potential to be prophets of the people and protest one should not

Prudence provides the platform for preservation of purpose

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I started thinking about writing this blog with one question in mind, what is dating about in 2011? I did a little research and came up with the following insights, I hope you will agree or share your comments with me on the subject:

Good Dating Judgment Comes From Experience and from Getting the Inside Scoop –

  • There are no “steadfast rules” anymore
  • Women are still battling stereotypes
  • Too many men are confused about their masculinity
  • Financials are a serious consideration in potential mating opportunities
  • Women are still looking for security over love but many still do not realize it
  • Men whether they admit it or not are looking to marry-up to improve their status
  • Women with children are not out of the dating game as much as they think they are
  • Some men actually prefer to work their way into a family unit rather than start one up from scratch
  •  Men like women to carry their own weight but don’t know how to express their preference
  • Men need to feel as if they are needed
  • Women are less in touch with their femininity and more about trying to meet marketing dictates about how they should look and act
  • Men know the difference and shy away from women who have to try too hard to be “pretty”

If you want to be a successful dating who to Stay Clear of the Following:

  • A person who falls in love too fast
  • A name dropper – someone who tries to overly impress you
  • Men or women who mistreat pets or who have no use for them
  • People who hates children or cannot be bothered by their presence even for a short time
  • Those who lives in a completely sterile environments devoid of any plants, flowers or any other signs of natural life
  • People who cannot mention having a good time without connecting enjoyment to substances such as: alcohol, recreational drugs or enormous amounts of rich food
  • Candidates who never want to introduce you to family or close friends
  • People who act awkward when you suggest that they meet your family and friends and make all kinds of excuses to avoid potential encounters
  • Shifts the conversation when you mention long-term plans of any sort
  • Speaks only of issues and concerns that involve him or her personally
  • Expects too much from you and resists turn taking
  • Wants to share intimate details about life way too soon in your relationship
  • Keeps talking about Ex’s and how he or she was victimized by them

 Nothing is a waste of time if you use the experience wisely.  ~Auguste Rodin

CNN’s Matchmaker’s Tips on Dating


Thoughts on Serial Dating


Some Profound Very Personal Female Insights on the Why’s and Wherefores of Dating


Pointers on How To Enchant Women


Cashing in on Corporate Dating Nuances – A Glimpse into a Premier Dating Service


Sexual Politics in Higher Education and Beyond – Dating Bans in the Corporate World


   Tips on Avoiding Dating Discomfort


Intelligent Interactions – what to say and not to say on a date



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According to Jean Langlois, ScD, an investigator in epidemiology at the National Institute on Aging, Bethesda, MD, women over the age of 50 that lose a lot of weight are actually at greater risk of fracturing their hips.  In fact, the study showed that when women lost 10% of their weight or more after the age of 50 their chance of fracturing their hip more than doubled. As a precautionary measure, physicians recommend that women reach an optimal weight and stay at that size, taking into account, however, that heart disease associated with being overweight is even more dangerous than a hip fracture. 

Exercise is always good for reducing pounds and inches but did you know that women who participate in aerobic workouts up to three times per week have a lower risk of developing breast cancer.

Amazingly, anorexia is not an eating disorder that affects young women reports Paul L. Hewitt PhD, associate professor of psychology, University of British Columbia, Vancouver, Canada.  Only 25% of the women who die from anorexia are overachieving, young women, in fact, the majority, four out of five, who lose their lives due to anorexia nervosa, are a shocking 45 years of age or even older.

Many women are closet smokers who use nicotine as a measure to control their appetites and because of this strategy suffer years later even after they have given up smoking because they are two to three times more likely to suffer from incontinence than those who never smoked cigarettes at all. Studies indicate that nicotine constricts the bladder, causing unintentional urine leakage. 

The foods mature women eat have a big influence on their overall health. Few women meet their calcium requirements says Ethel Siris, MD, professor of clinical medicine, College of Physicians and Surgeons, Columbia University, New York City. Bone thinning is grossly undiagnosed in women over 50. Women with low bone density suffer broken bones at twice the rate of those with normal bone density and those with osteoporosis, four times the rate.  The recommended intake of calcium for women 25 to 50 years of age is 300 mg of calcium, eight ounces of milk or yogurt.

Here are some more interesting facts about weight loss involving women 40, 50 and beyond…

Facts about Women Losing Weight After 40 / 50

Losing Weight after 50


How to Lose Weight for Women Over 50


Fighting 40’s Flab


Losing Weight After 40


Weight loss through hypnosis


Here’s what to do tomorrow 1st thing if you cannot lose weight after 50


YouTube Video – Unbelievable Research to help eventually minimize the effects of aging


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We dress for display purposes, attiring our secret selves in distracting costumes that are intended to enhance our silhouette or physique and make a good impression. We place attention on areas that we consider our physical attributes and downplay our less than attractive bodily features.  We like to select clothing that satisfies our need to express our originality and that communicates our moods socially. We pick out an outfit to wear, depending on our feelings at the time, the particular activities we will be engaged in, and the length of time we will be wearing the garment. A fabrics appeal varies but is always contingent on how the material fits our shape and our full-scale bodily proportions: the way in which it folds, creases, and its opaque qualities and if we are trying to conceal or reveal what lies immediately underneath.  Definition, contour and form are brought to light by the ability of the material to absorb rays where illumination intersects. It is most flattering where there is evenness and a broad flowing line, and where there are shadows there is curvature at the central point’s establishing the direction that observer’s eyes will travel.   Accessories rearrange proportions, add a touch of glamour or detail to our apparel by accenting a certain part of the garment making it more pronounced, ornate, interesting, thoughtful or tasteful in its appearance. 

To an untrained eye, a person’s clothing or individual style may be hard to distinguish but for the clothing connoisseur who views a person’s attire all in one glance,   the individual is perceived as a life size portrait, a human creation whose image is either pleasing or harmonious to his or her eyes or irritating and disconcerting.  Those of us, who are ultra sensitive to aesthetic compositions of any kind, cannot dismiss the distinctive rhythm of another person’s unique style as it reflects the expressive quality of the wearer.  The attire each of us chooses to wear when we venture out, visually signifies more than just our days clothing selection, it also exemplifies the energies of our spirit, along with the more soulful aspects of our intuitive persona.

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  • Wonderfully fresh food ceremonially prepared
  • Sodare – bamboo mat
  • Sashimi knife
  • Ultra-refined aristocratic dining habits
  • Artful arrangement of frugally prepared food portions delicately presented
  • Meticulously prepared portions
  • Kome Rice, chicken, fish and many varieties of vegetables including turnip, bean and rice cake
  • Lacquer boxes of sushi
  • Tempura feast – deep fried batter coated shrimp, vegetables, chicken and meat
  • Teriyaki marinade for fish and fowl
  • Yellowtail
  • Great attention paid to the preparation of small, tasty bites of food
  • Strongly flavored shredded garnishes (an appetizing array of radishes – daikon, cucumber strips, cubes of raw tuna)  
  • Crunchy and nutritious seaweed salad (Wakame)
  • Jasmine tea
  • Sake
  • Sukiyaki
  • Quail eggs
  • Pickled, peeled and dry fruit
  • Rice vinegar
  • Ayu (small freshwater sea fish)
  • Careful selection of seasonal dishes
  • Shiitake mushrooms
  • Crisp ginger spears
  • Sesame seed oil
  • Soy sauce and ginger shavings
  • Burdock root
  • Tofu
  • Udon (wheat noodle)
  • Snow peas
  • Lotus root
  • Taro
  • Bamboo shoots
  • Mackerel
  • Melon, oranges and tangerines  

More on this Subject:

How to Eat Sushi at a Restaurant


How to make California Roll Sushi


How to Make Tempura Vegetables


Amazing Chef Japanese Restaurant


Japanese Tea Ceremony


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We live in a world filled with cures for crippling conditions and they are all completely natural.  Using food as a form of medicine is not a new concept. The Indians lived off the land and the water ways as did the early American settlers.  They knew the value of apples, avocados and beans. They tapped into the properties of blueberries as well as broccoli and carrots, benefited from the protective nutrients of nuts and oats, spinach and soy.  

In the East food has always been a way to deal with alignments and diseases.  Editable alternatives have the ability to booster the body’s immune system and ward off all kinds of invaders that cause havoc on human health.  In Japan the Japanese have fished the ocean searching for types of vegetation such as seaweed, high in mineral and nutrient content for centuries.

Middle Easterners know that herbs and spices are just as valuable for healing. The Bible boasts the benefits of olives and grapes off the vine and the evidence is supported with decades of scientific research papers as to the healing properties of foods such as: fruits and vegetables, grains and legumes.  Just ask anyone from Greece and they will sing the praises of yogurts and goat cheese, olive oils and lemon juice or listen to the Spaniards describe their diet for health made up of protein rich foods grilled or broiled.  The Italians have long known of the vitamins garnished from tomatoes and garlic which they grow and prepare in abundance for family and friends as a form of solidarity.

I love homemade meals made from scratch. To me, there is nothing in this world that is more appetizing than the real aromas of scrupulous food floating through the air from an active kitchen where its being prepared. When I visited Italy I watched in awe as an array of extremely palatable foods was being prepared for consumption.  I stood over stove and helped to stir the steaming soup made from a blend of vegetables brought in straight from the garden. I can still recall the sense of healthy satisfaction after eating a vegetarian feast of brightly colored, freshly grilled peppers, eggplant and zucchini accompanied by a loaf of freshly baked bread piping hot from the oven, all brown and crusty.  

Here is a list of just a few of the conditions that can be addressed by some very tasty and healing foods:

  • Acne
  • Allergies
  • Arthritis
  • Asthma
  • ADD
  • Cancer
  • Colds and influenza
  • Depression
  • Diabetes
  • High blood pressure
  • Irritable bowel Syndrome
  • Kidney stones
  • Psoriasis
  • Urinary track infections
  • Wrinkles
  • Yeast infections

These are only a few of the disorders that can be prevented or modified and improved with more attention to our diet, best of all, we can make these changes through natural means. Many symptomatic problems are brought about by food or environmental influences and an overgrowth of microorganisms like bacteria or yeast which over a period of time, eating the wrong foods cause these negative invaders to lodge themselves in our intestines. 

For years the American diet has been high in saturated fats, we rarely grow our own foods but instead have added all kinds of chemicals to increase the flavor to appeal to our senses, neutralizing their natural taste until it is unrecognizable, and worst of all, stock our grocery store shelves with every non-nourishing and harmful fake food product imaginable.

Most frequently consumed restaurant or fast foods responsible for abdominal fat as reported from Reader’s Digest, Food Cures (2007). Pleasantville, NY  

  • Doughnuts
  • Danish rolls
  • French Fries
  • Breaded fish burgers
  • Breaded chicken nuggets
  • Crackers
  • Enchiladas  
  • Pies
  • Marbled meats
  • Foods laced with margarine
  • Foods prepared with vegetable shortening

 A few healing herbs and spices also reported in this publication are:

  • Cayenne pepper
  • Cinnamon
  • Cloves
  • Coriander
  • Ginger
  • Sage
  • Turmeric

 Brief Examples of Delicious Meals Mentioned that Support Good Health are:

  • Buckwheat pancakes
  • Hummus made from mashed garbanzo beans
  • Ginger butternut squash soup
  • Lentils with stewed tomatoes and basil
  • Three bean chili
  • Fish tacos
  • Turkey Cutlets
  • Zucchini  frittata

Food is to be enjoyed and flavorful, not fussed over or feared.  When we eat the way we should to support our bodily processes we celebrate every meal as a festive occasion that brings pleasure to our taste buds and better health to our bodies. By spending a little time to acquire knowledge of what good eating can do for us, we can improve our chances of living longer and more energetic lives.

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A life of guaranteed good fortune or invulnerability, by virtue of a charm or spell (Phrase Finder) http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/189900.html  The term “A Charmed Life” originates all the way back to Shakespeare’s Macbeth, 1605.


  Thou losest labour:
    As easy mayst thou the intrenchant air
With thy keen sword impress as make me bleed:
Let fall thy blade on vulnerable crests;
I bear a charmed life, which must not yield,
To one of woman born.

Shakespeare,W. (1605) Macbeth

Shakespeare used this phrase in Macbeth (5:8): “Let fall thy blade on vulnerable crests, I bear a charmed life, which must not yield to one of woman born.” In later years, the term was extended to anyone who narrowly escaped from danger or was similarly lucky. Retrieved from: A Charmed Life,  http://www.joe-ks.com/phrases/phrasesC.htm Phrases, Clichés, Expressions & Sayings.

How to know if you’re leading a charmed life, the characteristics of a charmed existence are as follows:

  • You bounce back quickly after a long bout with adversity
  • Not only do you have enough to eat but your meals are always satisfying, tasty and sumptuous
  • You are blessed with children and they respect and admire you as a person, not just as their parent
  • You forget all your cares when you dance and listen to upbeat music
  • You frequently sing or whistle a happy tune without even being aware that you are doing so
  • Your coworkers laugh at your jokes because they really do find them amusing
  • You enjoy the time you spend alone with yourself
  • You like the look of your home and frequently share it with friends whose company you cherish
  • You know you are fortunate to have transportation that you can depend upon and that offers you an opportunity to experience a sense of personal freedom
  • You have a rich and full spiritual life
  • You have hope when situations turn bleak and threatening
  • You have an appreciation for things that are aesthetic
  • You are a creative force in your own life and in the lives of others who recognize your gift to innovate
  • You play a musical instrument
  • You speak more than one language
  • You watch or engage in a sport that brings to you regular pleasure
  • You have people in your life that are kind and generous and treat you well
  • You wake up with energy and enthusiasm every day
  • You are a person who knows how to forgive and frequently does so
  • You have a natural inclination toward playfulness and lightheartedness
  • You excel at the majority of projects that you take on
  • You have a curious spirit and are always interested in the discovery of new facts and concepts and you integrate them into your life on a consistent basis
  • You have a healthy view of how you should look and feel at your age and are grateful for your attractiveness and wellness
  • You’re not a person who stays in a bad mood for an indefinite period of time, you know yourself and what you need to get out of a funk
  • Your colleagues think of you as an intelligent and industrious professional and often share their high opinions of you with others who are less observing of your attributes
  • You are loved dearly by a pet or two or more
  • When you are called upon to maintain self-control you have little problem acquiescing
  • Modesty is one of your strongest traits
  • People warm up to you right away and your never at a loss for friends or acquaintances
  • You are a practical person who has the where-if-all to handle whatever life hands out to you and the wisdom to make the best of your circumstances

When all is said and done,  a charmed life is nothing more or less than a life that is built around the practices and principles we wholeheartedly, believe in!


Give this Lady a Listen and Just Relax


More on this Topic –

Background information on the song – “He’s Got the Whole Word in His Hands”


Maria Callas – Operatic Performance of Lady Macbeth


Interesting Blog on the origin of “Charmed Life”


Author Kay Fay – Meanderings of an Aged Mind, a teacher who made her life charmed with the transference of her skills


A Tribute to His Teacher – a must see…


How to Live A Charmed Life


Charmed Life – Lovely song by composer  Joy Williams


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