Everyone wants to be liked and to feel appreciated, but when push comes to shove, what really matters is that we are revered for who we truly are, not our looks, not our socio-economic status, nor our personalities, but for our moral character. Judging people on the basis of their moral fiber is important for many reasons. Here are at least 10 I can readily think of:
(1) we may have to rely on them in an emergency situation
(2) we may have to seek their advice prior to making a major decision
(3) we may have to ask for their moral support when we are feeling despondent
(4) we may need their back up if we are called into question
(5) we may need to strategize with them if we must navigate through a difficult dilemma
(6) we may have to share a hidden secret and need their confidence that it will not be repeated
(7) we may have to turn to them for strength to accept a circumstance that in our minds is unbearable
(8) we may have to acknowledge by admission some aspect of ourselves that is flawed
(9) we may have to work through a multi-layered problem that is too deep to see our way out of
(10)we may need to know that there still exists, persons whose characters remain firmly intact, regardless of the challenges they may have undergone or the compromises they have had to make
There is little denying that we are who we associate with. The people, whom we see from day-to-day or speak with week by week, affect our thoughts and our perceptions. We are not beyond their influence even if, it is ever so slight. We do not exist as an island and regardless of our physical isolation at times; we are still connected to one another, if only by mutual consensus. Yet, in the grand scheme of things, the connection is not as binding as the cohesion of mutual character traits between us.
In times of confusion or deprivation we must be assured that we can count on one another’s virtues, that our shared belief systems are rock solid and that we can trust that we will not be mislead by another’s immediate intentions or their long-term agendas. Judging others by their character and not their personality traits is a good way in which to see beyond the person and directly into his or her spirit.
By relating to an individual’s character rather than the magnetism of his or her persona, we have a platform from which to erect a sound relationship built on virtues that inspire mutual admiration. Simply put, such persons are capable of bringing out the very best in us.