There are some aspects of my activity patterns that have been a mystery to me for years. Like almost everyone else I have a vacancies in my self-awareness based on a whole host of underlying defenses that trigger unexpected reactions and responses that I find can be really scary. Most of the time, I am pretty much unaware of these dislodged recollections that can raise havoc, unless something unexpected brings out some suppressed reaction.
I think that making the effort to see deeply into ourselves is worth the exertion so we can better run our own lives. Looking at the reasons for our behavior is generally greatly rewarded even if the benefits are not perceived right away. Gaps in our understanding of our motives and our reasoning can often keep us from being in control of our emotions. If we are not careful, our feelings can definitely get the best of us.
By knowing ourselves better we can relate more intuitively to others who are also clueless at times as to why they act and feel the way they do. To be close to people we must sometimes endure their hostility as well as their affection.
I think there is nothing worse than feeling confused and out of control and yet, examining our patterns before we gain insight into ourselves makes us feel just that way. The process of self-revelation is like wearing skis for the first time, you stumble around a lot before you become sure-footed.
Feeling powerful comes from having a better grip on our own lives instead of running everyone else’s. The trick is to take our power back rather than trying to give it away by commenting on the behaviors of others.
Minding our own business (so to speak) is not so akin to riding a bike or driving a car for the first time. It takes a good deal of practice to get it right and to maintain perfect balance.
When we envision ourselves from an outsider’s perspective we can begin to see how imposing our constructive comments and criticisms can be to another person. Trying to tell others how to run their lives only makes them feel more uncomfortable and tense about themselves.
It is hardly worth the effort. I guess that’s why it’s best to live and let live as the saying suggests that we do.