Macho men have never liked my personality type. In fact, I get on their nerves, frustrate them and make them sigh from aggravation. Believe you me, it is not deliberate. I just have an independent mind of my own, and dominant male types (men with tough-guy images) do not appreciate my way of seeing things, especially, if I object to their sexist remarks. I think I must ask too many questions and challenge too many of their assumptions about women. I think certain men, especially those who are considered by other men as sufficiently manly – muscle-bound cave men types, perceive of me as a threat sometimes to their masculinity.
I like men that allow me to be my own person and do not see me or try to label me as just another “chick.” The men that I have the most difficult time with are the ones who think they can have anyone they set their sights on. You know the sort I am referring to, the ladies man, or the man about town. His eyes are always gazing at the wrong things and his comments are always leaning toward a dominant position and are somewhat inappropriate. The kind of men I am describing, speak of women as if they were relating to slabs of tenderloin beef. More times than not, the men I am speaking of were raised by men who instilled in them deeply rooted gender inequalities. They are constantly judging females more on the firmness of their body parts and their attractiveness than on any aspect of their intellect.
It has been my personal experience that macho men are primarily drawn to women who are into two things, sexual passion and outdoor adventure. It appears if women lack either one of these so-called “core basics” and have any other qualities; it seems as if it’s a deal breaker. In conversing with a “man’s – man” personality type, I am always careful to avoid words like “respect” or “adoration.” These are men who shy away from expressing any form of tenderness. I used to believe that it was because no woman had ever been able to penetrate their manly exterior but now, I know better. Most males who display more of the traditional “male” indicators – (a) are not interested in exploring the inner recesses of their more feminine side or (b) are not at all in touch with how they truly feel …period. They cannot bear the thought of a woman being in any way, shape or form – “one and the same” to them.
How to Approach and Get Along with Macho Men –
- Converse in guy-speak
- Know as much as you can about sports
- Maintain an easy-going attitude
- If you bring up a topic that does not go over well – drop it!
- Stay away from subjects that express too much self-interest
- Remember, touch-guys do not like to relinquish their control – don’t try to challenge them
- If you disagree about something, don’t try to debate the issue or be combative – it will just add insult to injury
- Be alert to clues and cues of how the macho male interprets masculinity overall to gain a better understanding of him
- Read books, articles and investigate other resources that offer greater insights on subjects related to tough-guy identities
- Look into the persona of men who are drawn to occupations that emphasize physical endurance aggressiveness and courage and epitomize conventional masculine characteristics such as: elite members of the U.S. Marine Corps, firefighters and police officers
- Learn what you can about stereotypical portraits of cowboys, prize fighters and bikers but remember, at best, the information you will access will be based on generalities
More Information on the Subject –
Re: Debate Article – “Do women Prefer Macho Men or Metrosexuals?”
Performance – Village People “I Wanna Be a Macho Man” –
Macho, Macho Man Scenes from Movies –
Marlon Brando’s Performance from the Move the “The Wild One” –
Billy Jack Movie – Scene from the fight in the Park (classic movie footage) –
Scene from original film “Rocky” – Sylvester Stallone –
Clint Eastwood – “Dirty Harry” scene with classic line: “Go Ahead and Make My Day!”
Profile of Actor Robert De Niro – Warning very explicit language used in this video –
Documentary on America’s Favorite Cowboy – Actor John Wayne – Actor and Patriot Man of Honor –
Film Clip From Movie “Cool Hand Luke” Boxing Scene w/ Paul Newman –
Steve McQueen in Bullitt –
Making of Bullet – McQueen’s Commitment to Reality – A Brief Documentary
Hemingway and Bullfights in Spain –
Hemmingway’s book “The Old Man and the Sea” –the determination of the Macho Fisherman as he depicted him in his famous novel
Spencer Tracy Scene from Movie “The Old Man and the Sea”
A Macho Fisherman
Here is a Way to Say Thank You to Our Troops This Christmas –