Hugging means different things to different people. I personally love to get hugs and I love to give hugs, but I do not just hand our random hugs. I am selective about whom I hug and why I hug them. I make the effort to hug when I want to let a person know just how precious they are to me. I believe hugging should always come from the heart. My loving nature is demonstrated when I reach for someone and bring them close to me in an embrace. The word hug comes from the old English word “Logian” meaning to care for. I always feel special when someone hugs me and, while they are wrapping their arms around me snugly, I definitely feel as if they care for me too.
Hugging has a long illustrious history with me as it does with most people. As a toddler I can recall being hugged every night before bed. In our home it was a ritual. Later, as a young child I would be ordered to give hugs to adults (mainly family members and remote relatives who would occasionally visit us )both upon their arrival and, again just before their departure. When I grew older, during my high school years, I used to get people (mainly boys) who would come up from behind and give me a hug, specifically, as a joke to take me off guard. I always hated that. It made me feel like we were both going to topple over. I was never comfortable because of all the attention it would draw to us.
Some people do not like to be hugged – period, my husband is one of them. Europeans are not big fans of public displays of affection, at least not socially anyway. Many think that we are ridiculous about the way we insist on hugging one another constantly.
You can pretty much tell who does and does not like to be hugged the minute you attempt to clasp the person in your arms. An individual who is not comfortable being embraced will begin instantly to turn to his or her body to the side, giving the hugger, what is commonly referred to as; “the cold shoulder” to signify a certain degree of aloofness.
Hugging is holistic. It is thought to strengthen the immune system and reduce anxiety. It is considered good for depression – lessening its effects. A nice responsive hug offers its own unique brand of reassurance. It somehow gives the impression of closure. How many times has someone said “Don’t worry, everything will turn out alright” Now, come here and, give me a nice big hug. In these instances, I am always left wondering, who is really the one providing the consolation, the hugger or the hugee?
More About Hugging –
Human Connection through Hugging – the 5 Principles of Hugging from the author of the “Hugging Life”
Music video on Hugging
How to Give the Perfect Man Hug – Videojug.com
Romantic Hugs Explored
Hugging and Air Kissing