Sometimes we get so busy we neglect to take time to reflect and make the changes (hourly, weekly, monthly and yearly) that can have an enormous impact on our lives both short-term and long-term. The gift of coaching that I gave to myself inspired me to pause and take note of my feelings and the way I achieved my accomplishments but most of all, it encouraged me to live more in the present.
Working with a private coach inspired me to ask myself what behavioral changes I needed to make to fulfill my greater potential, not just professionally, but personally as well. I knew my life was out of balance but I did not have a clue as to how to get things back into perspective and enjoy it more. It seemed as if I could advise everyone else with what they should do to rejuvenate themselves but when it came to me I really did not know where to begin. Through coaching, I learned to take small steps and to measure my results daily. Slowly, I started to see minor changes occur around me. At first, I thought nothing of what was happening to me and, then, I started to witness more major differences, most notably, in the way I was living in the present.
What I recall, was most significant about my coaching experience was the way I was thinking differently – about everything. As my perceptions about things in my personal and career life began to shift, people I was in contact with at the time began to comment on how they noticed that I was reclaiming myself. I felt as if I was making a deeper connection with individuals that I had been having difficulty communicating with for years. Friends and business associates that had fallen by the wayside as I dashed madly through (my days and nights blindly trying to meet one goal after the other) began to reappear. I found myself surrounded by people who seemed to care more about my progress and about me than they had ever before. Conversations with others improved as I gained more clarity about myself, my world and the problems of those who shared their stories with me. I felt more in tune with strangers and compelled to express myself by being more open and creative in my choice of verbiage and phraseology. I found myself tapping into my sixth sense more and coming up with more imaginative and intuitive ways to approach the frustrations and challenges I needed to overcome to truly appreciate myself and my talents. My generosity toward others returned and I started to trust again. I noticed myself becoming more forgiving of past slights and dirty dealings of adversaries. Speaking with my coach regularly gave me more momentum and I felt as if I had more energy both mentally and physically. I returned to college and as I continued to be coached my grade point average improved going from C’s to A’s. I started to set boundaries and quit blaming others for my shortcomings and losses (some of the time anyway – old habits are hard to break). What I gained most of all was a feeling of increased self-worth that I had not realized I had lost. Somewhere and somehow along the way, I had given up on having a healthy relationship with myself and those closet to me in my life. Before I participated in coaching I was burned-out and exhausted, hurried and hateful. I was racing through my life with nowhere in mind – just trying to keep up. I was living what had become a tasteless life. I was numb and my spirit was dead and buried. I know not everyone believes in the power of coaching, but I sure do. What a difference it has made for me and for all those who I cross paths with everyday. Coaching for me has been nothing short of a major paradigm shift and life makeover. Coaching was just the right form of help I needed to get back on track. Having had first-hand knowledge I know personally that no one but a qualified and experienced coach could have led me to these conclusions.