As care giving professionals, we can help people cope with many things. We can always find better ways and means to serve our clients and patients. We can combine our services with confidence-building approaches that help promote better living styles and self-appreciation. As aesthetic healers, we have access to many valuable resources that can be useful in our efforts to make those whom we attend to more self-assured and secure. We can take pride in the extra attention we can give them because the manner in which we work allows us the intimacy to do so.
Sometimes the circumstances in our lives lead to embarrassing moments that leave us blushing and running for cover. Awkward moments happen to everyone and are impossible to avoid. I know that I have had my share, and the people I assist have related their stories of similar situations which, given a sufficient amount of time, we can look back at and laugh. In the interim, we carry the feelings of insecurity they cause. Sometimes these emotional scars trigger self-defeating thoughts brought back to life by other unpleasant episodes that challenge our dignity until we find a way to interpret such situations.
We all have our own way of helping our clients and patients regain balance after they convey some mistake to us that they made and that caused them to turn beet red. Many times it is just sitting quietly and listening in horror to the gruesome details as they relay them to us in an all too visual account of their awful moments. Some of us communicate our compassion through empathetic listening and many times that is all that is required.
However, embarrassment comes in many textures, tones and shades. We all want to put our best face forward and not fall flat on our backs in the presence of others. But, unfortunately, life is not a scene out of a movie. We cannot rehearse each and every moment. We have all had them, those never forget times when all eyes were upon us and we flubbed up and instantly became a victim of a faux pas. That’s the thing about embarrassing moments–they are not predictable. One moment everything is fine and the next “oh no!” and our world has been shaken; and, in our minds the damage is comparable to that of an earthquake.
In his book, OOPs! Or, Life’s Awful Moments, Art Linkletter describes many “I wish I could just roll-up into a tiny ball and disappear episodes.” A woman who was dining out detected the diner next to her had left a couple of pieces of steak on his plate. Thinking that the meat would provide a tasty treat for her two dogs waiting out in the car, she rolled up the steak in a napkin. Suddenly, she felt a tap on her shoulder. The diner had returned from making a quick call and was aghast at what he was seeing. Linkletter also tells the tale of a Navy admiral in Mission Beach, California. After dressing for a party, he arrived at the house where the get-together was being held in full-dress uniform. His uniform decorated with all his ribbons, metals and gold braid made his presence imposing to the young child who answered the door. When asked who had just rung the doorbell? The little girl swung around, and, called out, “I don’t know who is at the door – but I think it’s God!” Who among us had not shown up at some affair feeling overdressed or out of sync with everyone else there?
What follows is some pretty good resources we can share with our clients and patients to modify the aftershock of those earth shaking moments that make us scream out, “Oops!” I know this information can be very valuable in helping them cope because I have personally researched and benefited from the knowledge. It is not just applicable to those to whom we provide treatments, but it is intended to be beneficial to our co-workers, members of our family and, of course, our friends.
There is nothing better than seeing the relief on someone’s face when you realize you helped them experience a sense of ease with a situation that caused them to feel unaccepted or set apart because of an awkward moment they had to live through. This is just another example of how we can help by coming up with resources that will lead to people feeling more comfortable in their own skin.
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